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Why talking/blogging about the good stuff is, well, good.

Sometimes, sunshine-y, look-at-the-glass-half-full sort of bloggers get flack from their readers over their incessant cheerfulness.

“Be real!”

“Life isn’t perfect.”

“It’s all a sham.”

“No one could be that happy all the time.”

I haven’t experienced a lot of this, but I’ve seen people shred bloggers like Kelle Hampton (one commenter worried that reading her blog could cause you to “get sucked into the vortex of positivity”. Horrors.) or Amanda Soule over this (my blog isn’t as big as theirs, which means I have fewer critics. Either that, or I’m just not as happy as they are. Hmm.).

It’s definitely true that no one’s life is perfect. And it’s true that no one is happy all the time.

But here’s the thing. When we focus on/talk about the happy things in our lives, we often feel happier.

And when we focus on the negative things in our lives, we often feel more negative.

Have you ever noticed that complaining about something to someone else rarely makes you feel better? When I trot out my frustrations/unhappinesses, I usually feel more frustrated or unhappy (the exception being if I’m seeking advice from someone wise).

And conversely, if I focus more on positivity when I talk to someone, I usually feel more positive at the end of the conversation.

So, to those glass-half-full bloggers, I say carry on!

What does this have to do with frugality?

Well, as I mentioned in my contentment series, looking for the good in your life is one of the keys to being content, and I believe that being content is one of the keys to managing your money well. If you’re not content with what you’ve got, you’ll always be looking for that one more thing that will make you happy and contented, and often that means you’ll keep wanting to spend money (even though money/stuff rarely brings contentment).

So, go look for the good stuff in your life, and talk about it.

Point out the beautiful clouds when you drive your children to school, notice the lovely breeze, tell a friend about something nice your spouse did for you, say how grateful you are it didn’t rain for an event, take a picture of something adorable your child did, pay attention to that feature of your home that you love, tell your spouse about the encouraging progress your child made in area x, or think about how someone has blessed you recently and then tell them that.

If you purpose to do this, and also purpose to be more quiet about the negative stuff, I think you’ll be surprised at how much happier you feel.

Give it a try…it’ll work better than shopping and won’t cost you a cent. 😉

(please know that I’m not suggesting we all put up fake facades and pretend we never struggle with anything…just that we’ll probably be happier if we shift the balance in favor of positivity.)

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Angela Giles Klocke

Friday 2nd of September 2011

Ah yes, a subject I know all too well about. I've always found it interesting that back in the day, when I was more angsty (still cheerful but I had a lot of baggage to unpack) and angry, I had a ton of readers and people commenting. The more positive my writings grew over the years, the fewer visits and comments. Makes ya go hmmmm... :)

Madeline

Friday 2nd of September 2011

I am always suspicious of people who don't like smiling faces. My sappy happy look is natural, even when I am having a rough day I tend to fins things to laugh and smile about,genuinely-- like a cat doing something silly, or an absolutely great sunrise.

And one of my spiritual teachers,Carolyn Myss,mentions that in America we tend to practice "woundology.." we bare our souls to ust about everyone, and identify ourselves as "victims " of this and "sufferers of that.."

WHen I AM having a rough day,I tend to feel better when I smile more, stay busy and connect with people in a positive manner rather than wearing my sorrow on my sleeve.

I don't hide my tough times from myself, but I don't dwell on them ,I smile ON PURPOSE cause it makes your chemistry change, and because I don't LIKE to share my sad stuff with strangers!

Tasmanian Minimalist

Thursday 1st of September 2011

Odd how people would criticise those of us who feel positive. In a world where there is so much rubish and heartache and worry about the future, those of us who choose the happiness trail out to be commended not critcised. It is too easy to take the easy way out and sook about the problems of the world. Much stronger is the character who chooses to happy path.

KellyC

Thursday 1st of September 2011

I heard it said once that if you argue for your weaknesses (as in using them as excuses), they become yours. I think the same thing applies to focusing on the negative. Whatever you focus on multiplies.

Anne@ChasingMaybes

Thursday 1st of September 2011

As always, very well said. Thank you for the great reminder.

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