Dear World,
I am not perfect.
I have never claimed to be so (Am I cheerful? Yup. Do I try to make lemonade out of lemons? Yup. But I am not perfect and neither is my life.)
I really, really do try to share my flaws and failings.
However, based on feedback I've received lately, it would appear that these types of posts have somehow fallen through the cracks.
So, here's a list of some of the posts I've written about my not-perfect life.
I shouldn't be doing this (wherein I share how I ordered pizza and ate three boxes of Hot Tamales instead of cooking a nutritious dinner)
Frugal Girl Confessions (a post comprised of my failings)
Some real-ness, in the form of a messy office
Right now, I am (in which I feel discouraged about my vision, am tired of humidity, and feel discouraged about something I'm observing in one of my kids)
Ugly Bread (two posts where I share some not-too-fabulous baking results)
Why I need Mr. FG (in which I explain that I fail at being frugal when the amount of money in question is large)
A missive from the sickbed (in which I experience my 3rd cold of the winter, can't do a Food Waste Friday post, and have to miss a speaking engagement)
And to add to my list of flaws, I am sitting here crying from frustration and discouragement, which is clearly a symptom of me having skin that is too thin.
Please know that I'm not perfect, and I don't want you to think that I am. I'm a sinner, a sinner who is saved by grace. I am an ordinary wife and mom, imperfectly seeking to help and encourage my readers and glorify God as I do so. Nothing more, nothing less.
Jesus is the only perfection there is, and I'm grateful that His performance is where my hope lies, and His grace is what will help me to press on and grow.
Simply to the cross I cling.
Kristen,
I've been following your blog for a while. I don't necessarily do all the same things you do with regards to frugality and concious spending, but all the same I really enjoy your blog and enjoy learning from it! But the thing I like most about your blog is your cheerful nature. I too am a glass-half-full, silver-lining kind of girl and your cheerful outlook and genuine appreciation for your life and family are very pleasant to read. So keep your head up and keep being cheerful, that's just who you are. 🙂
No no no! I think this is awful. I don't know you, but I have been reading your blog for months and feel like I do. I so appreciate that you have let us into your life. You have never claimed to be perfect. No one is. You truly bring joy to so many. I challenge everyone right now to keep things positive and send positive vibes to Kristen right away.
I so rarely read the comments here because at least one is guaranteed to make me mad. But yesterday, after following what was going on via Twitter, I did read them.
I just wanted to say a few things about how your blog makes me feel.
1. You have never made me feel true jealousy or guilt over my life. In fact, you have inspired me to be more adventurousness in the kitchen and to find more contentment in my own life.
2. Whenever I do read another very cheerful post about some minor detail in life and I only feel resentment or a sort of "blah" feeling about the post, I remind myself that your motto is "cheerfully living on less". Your goal as this blog's author (or at least what I have always seen as your goal) is to share how you make what could be not-so-fun situations a little better with a positive view on things.
I may not always 100% agree with what you say, but I get so much joy out of this blog and I always have. This blog is such a blessing to me and reading your cheerful posts every morning helps me to be a more cheerful person.
This exactly. And to piggy back on what someone else said on a previous post, if someone has a problem with what you say here, you shouldn't feel badly about it - they have to own their feelings. I actually wrote about reputation and how people see us yesterday, and what I said applies to this too:
"Be who you are. Do everything you can to be the best you. How others see you after you've done your best is on them."
word. i feel the same exact way. haters are going to hate whether it's on you or on someone else. to thine own self be true and you'll have followers who appreciate it and love you for you. don't worry about anyone else. love and blessings.
I'm new to your blog, so I'm just exactly sure what you're talking about, but keep your chin up!
Kristen....please don't let your thin skin change who you are and what you write. You are an inspiration to many many of us out here who are trying to be more frugal, trying to have a stronger relationship with God, trying to be a better mom, and trying to be overall a better person.
Sometimes I wonder how you do it all so it is nice to see that somethings fall through the cracks but I don't think I would visit your blog daily if I thought I wouldn't be inspired or amazed.
I know you are not PERFECT - no one is. But it's nice to have your happiness "rub off" on to us readers..especially as a pick me up.
You've said in the past that being around happy people brings happiness and I share that belief. Even if it's just in cyberspace reading your blog is being around a happy person for me. Thank you for sharing your life with us.
Ok, you're actually bad, we get it. 🙂
Jk! I'm sorry to read these lines. You shouldn't feel like you owe an explanation to anyone, really... This blog shows well the way you try to make the most of life, sure you can't do that and be enthusiastic and happy all the time, but I wouldn't expect that either. Your general attitude is so constructive, don't change that!
Kristen,
I love love love love LOVE your blog! Please don't feel bad about the few people who can't handle too much happiness. Your blog is at once encouraging, funny, honest, and joyful. I appreciate your posts on bad days or failures, but even if you never posted those I wouldn't be naive enough to think you never had bad days.
Lots of love and prayers to you today 🙂
Amen Meredith!
Lots of prayer and happy thoughts for you Kristen. Don't let a few bad comments put you down. Your blog is wonderful and I don't know why someone that didn't care for your posts would complain; just don't read it!
Kristen, I have followed and loved, your blog for sometime now. I find your blog refresing and inspirational. I have taken away many tips and tricks. Pease don't let those comments get to you. I think by nature we tend to hear the *negative* comments, and really let them get to us. Let them go, and put them to GOD, and pray for those people. Something may be going on in their lives that make them harbor bitterness. No one is perfect, and I visit your blog daily, because I always leave with a smile. Your a great person, and I think your are an inspiration to ALL of us. : )
Take care,
Steph
Kristen,
I have read your blog for a couple of years. "cheerfully living on less" that is who you are. Your readers get a pick-me-up from your posts. Keep writing the way you do.
Kristen,
I have been following your blog for a while now and love your posts. We all have our challenges and unfortunate events in our lives. If I wanted to see more of that I can just turn on the news for more negativity. Really, it has been bad lately....
I relish your upbeat and enthusiastic zest to live a frugal life, and your humility shines through in your writing. Your blog brings a smile to my morning. Shine on brightly! 🙂
I hope you feel better soon 🙂
Some people can't help but be negative and project that negativity on everyone around them. You aren't one of those people, which is why I enjoy your blog so much! You are not the same as everyone, and you never claim your ideas are the right ones for everyone. You simply share your life selflessly with us, and it sure does make my day better! I have gotten many ideas to help with my life. With things I can't do that you do wonderfully, I just remember that I am different and I have my own positive qualities. maybe others can't do that and feel guilty. Whatever the reason.....please just delete the email or comment...STOP re-reading it....it will help the sting of the mean words fade quicker.
I hope the positive comments and feedback you receive can help you feel better.
Awww honey......
Never, ever let anyone, especially via the internet, make you cry and feel down.
I like your blog and keep up the good work!
Please do not change your blog because of comments. I just found your blog a few weeks ago and love it. If someones happiness/unhappiness is going to come from reading a blog or anything else on the internet, what will they do if they can't afford the internet one day??
Kristen -
I love your cheerful attitude! It's why I come back to this blog, especially when I'm having a rough week or feel over-booked. It's like a refreshing breath of calmness to read about the fun things you do with your family.
Don't change who you are or how you write, except as the Lord leads. Sometimes people take things way too personally because what you are writing hits them in a sore spot, and they react to the poking, instead of looking at why that spot is sore. If you were making everyone happy all of the time, you wouldn't be challenging your readers!
Sometimes hearing about how much more time can be had by changing lifestyles (becoming a one-income family, switching kids from public to homeschooling, easing up on extracurricular stuff, starting a tradition of sitting down to dinner together, etc.) is the push a reader might need to actually make the change. Reading about what you were doing as a stay-at-home homeschooling mom is part of what pushed me to try being a SAHM. My kids aren't old enough for school yet, but we're also looking into homeschooling, partly because of our own public school experiences, but also because of reading your blog and seeing a concrete example of some of the benefits and challenges of homeschooling.
You have an amazing thing going here. You come across as down-to-earth, hardworking, and HUMAN. If someone is reading your blog and thinking you're way too perky or perfect, either s/he hasn't read the whole blog, or what you're writing is challenging and s/he doesn't like it.
~ Liz
This is my LIKE button, EngineerMom! Well said.
Yes, very well said! I am unable to be a SAHM or homeschool but I love this blog. While I sometimes don't mind the "I'm not perfect" posts, I absolutely don't want to hear about a possible flaw, a mess-up, or other not-so-cheerful thing if you feel forced to. Any possible negative thing I feel from this or ANY other blog is totally about myself. I have trouble working outside the home sometimes, but that's my problem, not yours. I love your blog. I love your cheerful attitude. In fact, I try to look at things differently, much like you, so I'm not consumed with negative thoughts. I didn't make it through all of the comments and I did make my own comment. However, I NEVER want to hear of someone crying over comments from a blog. Your life choice is awesome. AWESOME. Please continue to write to us and please forgive me if my comment was not good.
One of the reasons I read your blog is because you share your happiness and joy of life on it! I love reading about your family and how amazing they are. Of course you're not perfect! But I read your blog because you are striving to become the best person with the best family that can be. I love your sincerity. Thank you. Many other blogs make me feel inadequate. Yours does not. Thank you for your awesome insights and ideas.
Rachel
The internet is a harsh place where people feel safe enough to let us into their worlds and others feel safe enough to say or do things which they would not do in real life. I hope that the support on your blog (and FB and twitter) far outweighs the negativity and I hope that you still feel safe enough to share your life with those who eagerly read your daily posts. Don't lower yourself to the level of the negative people, rise above it ♥
It is hard to be thin skinned, but hang in there! I read your blog every day, and I get that you don't take photos when your kids are having a meltdown, or when you get up super early and it is pitch dark outside, or when you are scraping the mold off your shower (or just letting it grow). That is not what you are trying to put out there in the world with your blog. Even though I am an avid reader (lurker), you and I have nothing in common. I work full time as a lawyer, have no kids, am not a Christian and live in a condominium with my lesbian partner! I started reading your blog because of the baking and recipe posts (which are unfailingly awesome, btw), but I became a regular reader because I enjoy your message of contentment and non-consumerism (and the painting and photography tips). I respect people who have figured out how to live their lives consistent with their values, and you have certainly done that. Obviously, there are aspects of your life that you are not going to write about, and I am OK with that. Frankly, if you were mostly negative and complaining, I would not keep reading your blog every day.
Hee. Yes. Pink shower mold is just not good blog material.
Praying for peace for you today... I truly honor your honesty and transparency... Be Blessed!!
I don't know what the comments said, but I'm sorry. I can't stand "I'm so wonderful and my life is perfect" blogs, and your blog is decidedly NOT in that category. You're brave enough to welcome us all into your life, something I could never do, and have always been nothing but gracious, honest, and above all, kind. Do me a favor - try to picture all of us who are blessed by your blog, who have made positive comments over the years, along with your lovely family and friends standing in a circle around you. It's a big circle of affection and love. Let our voices drown out the mean ones - there are far more of us. 🙂
Blah. I really dislike blogs like that too...when the authors always look super done-up, their husbands are AMAZING and their children are AMAZING and their house is perfectly clean and their wardrobe is fabulous....etc. So, I guess that's why it always stings so much when someone tells me that I don't share my flaws or failings. I want so much NOT to be like those fakey perfect blogs.
Honestly, some people want to read about others' "failings" to make themselves feel better about their own failings. Yes, I'm commenting again. But I really like your blog. I even told my sister about you, and your contentment ideals.
Kristen, I have been enjoying your blog for quite some time now and I have never felt that you are anything but genuine. You're blog has been motivating to me and I am sure it is to many others. I don't typically post comments but I wanted to know that you are appreciated for your positive spirit. 🙂 Hang in there!
OK, I don't have children or an Aldi, have never homeschooled, live a rural area, am not much of a photographer, and don't practice my faith in the same way as you, Kristen. And although I'd like to be, I'm not as good at putting a positive spin on my daily life. However, I am trying to improve my frugal living skills, love to cook at home, enjoy family time and making an adventure of making do. I read your blog because I choose to focus on how we are alike, and learn from how we are different. I do not expect you to solve any of the problems in my life, but I am grateful for the skills and wisdom you have posted that have helped me solve a few. And if I'm really not interested in a daily post--that's fine, I bet I'll like tomorrows post.
Having said all that, I have a thin skin, too, so I can imagine that you are feeling wounded. But remember that you have lots of us who appreciate you, (happy or not) and we just don't always speak up.
Like your comment about learning from our differences!
((HUGS)) to you! And prayers offered for you to the only One who can truly comfort your heart!
A wise woman who leads our bible study group noted recently shared with us that we (as women) take to heart criticism that is untrue, where if someone said "You are PURPLE!" we would never believe them. Insert PURPLE for all the hurtful things and hear instead the truth of who you are in Christ.
((HUGS)) again!
Love this.
Hi Kristen! Yours is the one blog that I make sure and read every day. I enjoy all of your posts, and they brighten my day! I know you work hard to make your life as it is possible, and we all know nobody is perfect. If anything, you inspire me to try and get my life to a place where I can be more frugal, debt-free and hopefully able to stay home with my girls in a year or two. I glean so much here that I am tucking away in my brain and heart for the future. Keep up the good work!
That is downright lovely to hear! I hope that you are successful in reaching that goal.
Hi Kirsten: Thank you for your honesty. I love your blog too! I think reading your cheerful and positive posts are good for us in this world of negativity. Yes, we are all sinners and yes, we all fail sometimes, and yes, we all feel guilty! You started this blog because you wanted to share your knowledge with others. If others don't want to read what you write, they don't have to. For the rest of us, keep cheerfully blogging, please! After all, that is what your blog is entitled, so we know exactly what to expect when we open the page. God bless you and your family.
Kristen,
I've been lurking around here for several months. I've never left a comment, but I do come back here almost every day. It's true that no one is perfect. However, you are living the life that our Heavenly Father gave you to live and it is perfect for you.
I simply enjoy what you write and share with us. While you are open and honest about your shortcomings, your personal life is nobody else's business. If people are looking for disfunction and drama they can go watch Jerry Springer and leave you alone. You are a blessing and a light. Just keep shining!!
It's sad that bloggers need to have a thick skin. You're doing a wonderful job and do a lot of good in people's lives. Don't let the negative comments get you down!
I know. My heart is so sad whenever I read about the abuse that other bloggers receive...NieNie, Kelle Hampton, Amanda Soule, Gluten-Free Girl, Pioneer Woman and countless others. It's one thing if a blogger is abrasive and controversial (they kinda invite the criticism then), but these are all people who write fairly benign, happy blogs, and yet somehow people find all sorts of fault with them.
If only people could be kind.
Kristen,
I have read your blog for a couple of years now and I really enjoy it. In reading I know you have pointed out how you aren't perfect. I feel you are encouraging in your writing, and are sharing to help others out. You have a good attitude, which is enjoyable! I sometimes am confused why people complain about blogs that are too happy, too positive, and not constantly describing what goes wrong in their life. I certainly don't want to read something negative every day. You have given plenty of information about how your life is regular just like everyone elses', things go well somedays and somedays they don't. Keep being who you are, unfortunately some people can't be pleased and hurt others, maybe because they are hurting themselves. So Kristen be encouraged there are many out there who love your blog, it is wonderful to find one filled with great (and useful) information that is also positive!!
As a person with clinical depression, I love reading your blog! I'll be praying for you. I have thin skin, too, and I think that it is God's way of making us be more sensitive to others, like Jesus was in his life, even though it hurts a lot sometimes! Most people don't realize how hurtful they can be with their careless words.
Kristen,
I absolutely LOVE your blog. It is such an inspiration to me and you are such a generous person. I am one of the silent majority (I believe) that read your blog as well as other blogs and never comment, even though we've benefitted so much from them. I take your recipes, your cheerful attitude, your wonderful photograpy and posts and enjoy them but never thank you for it all. But today, I just had to comment.
I'm just baffled that people can be so discouraging and accusatory in their comments when they don't have to speak to someone face to face. They truly have issues in their own lives which need to be addressed. But please keep in mind that there is a silent majority out here and we love you!! I share your beliefs and know that God is so pleased with you! Keep on perservering--keep on running this race!! You brighten many people's days. Thanks again Kristen for sharing your talents and gifts so generously, even in the face of how discouraging this world can often be.
You don't need to be perfect to be a glass (almost) full kind of gal. What's the alternative? Being negative and not being happy with what you've been blessed with? There are too many people living in that negative space anyway.
I love your blog. I follow many blogs, but none as most as yours and its because you bring joy through you posting about what you think is best, because your attitude is godly and because I always feel encouraged by your blog. I understand the pressure to make sure that you are appeasing your blog audience because in some ways you are a leader in their lives. I feel this kind of pressure all the time being a leader myself. Its stressful like you've let people down.
However, just in case you need it (and you might not because you've received over a dozen sweet comments today;) ) THERE IS ENOUGH GRACE FOR EACH DAY. Even if out of no ill intention you offend someone with your blog, I believe that God can take care of that issue for that offended person even with our mistakes. Obviously we are responsible for our actions, but at the end of the day, God is the one who can fix it, even with all the mess ups we do. Last thing, another older leader once told me this: if someone is angry at you, its their anger. They are the ones who are responsible for it and to act in a manner that is respectable. We aren't their slaves, we aren't their parents our job is not trying to make them happy all the times.
My sincere hope is that you are able to be relieved of any stress that the past couple days has caused. 😉 thanks for this great blog!
Kristin - I for one am inspired by your daily, uplifting posts. I always save yours for last in my google reader because I know that they will make me feel happy and sunny. I have enough blechiness going on in my personal life, it's frankly delightful to read something from a nice person who is doing her best to see the good in the world and in other people. I never for once have thought you're perfect or that you portray yourself as Little Miss Perfect. Sorry... 😉
Basically, I think you rock.
I really do enjoy your blog!
I guess one thing to ponder is if you are having this kind of response (crying and discouragement) what is God trying to teach you?
Kristen,
Yesterday, after prayer, I was sitting in reflection. In my mind, I was seeing my church from the point of view of Jesus. In our particular church, the life size crucifix is hanging over the altar. It was strange, to be in my mind but also seeing myself sitting in a pew in prayer as I would see me there if I were Him.
I felt a lot of different emotions and let them wash through me. I thought about being away from my church for many years and how I've come back again, after so many years of searching for what I myself chose to leave. I thought of the love He has for us, and how it must be hard to watch us turn away from him (today's reading in Mass of Romans 8:31-39 speaks to this perfectly). I thought of all the prayers he must have said to awaken me and what really rang in my mind are these words, that seem be be from from Him.. (and quite startled me to hear so clearly in my mind)--
"I almost gave up praying, but I didn't know which prayer would bring you back."
You are in my prayers, as are all the readers of your blog. We never know which prayer (or blog post) will be the one that helps someone right when they need it. You have reached into the hearts and minds of many, thank you for being brave enough to do so.
I am another that has never posted on your blog but keep coming back because I enjoy reading your uplifting posts and have tried and enjoyed several of your recipes (yogurt, bread, muffins, soup). I too take criticism too personally and have no suggestions for you (or really have no idea what is upsetting you), but hope that you realize you are uplifting so many people with your cheerful outlook on life. Just wanted to say thanks for being you and writing a blog I enjoy reading.
Kristen -
I just want to say that you have yet another fan coming out of the woodwork begging you to keep being cheerful in your posts! I'm not quite sure I would qualify myself as a negative nelly, but I do have a tendency to get hung up on the bad things. But when I'm having a bad day, and I come here and see pictures of kids having fun in the park, or you link to a recipe on your weekly menu that sounds good, or you talk about how to make something old look nice, it just makes me happy! There are a million places on the internet where a person can find miserly loves company blogs, but not many where you can find blogs that just cheer you up!
I read your blog everyday even though I am a grandma. My daughter is in her early 30's and her life is a mess. It gives me hope that there are still young women in the world living like you do, trying to do their best. I am not familiar with the "Twitter issue", but I understand how a tender, sensitive heart can be hurt.
Kristen,
When I read some of the comments and e-mails that people write to you, I am horrified by how nasty people can be. Please know that I think you are an amazing person. To be perfectly honest, I am somewhat envious of you and how you live your life. You are living my "dream world" that I always wanted as a child/young adult. I dreamed of being married, having kids, staying home with them, and working on making my children the best they can be through life-lessons. Those lessons are the things that you teach by your frugality and your mindset!! When I had my first child last July, I took the steps to begin my "dream." Then 5 weeks later, my husband died very suddenly while out for a jog. I was blessed to stay home with my daughter for now, but I am going to be going back to teaching when she begins kindergarten. With it just being me, I have a very hard time cooking meals and being the homemade person I have always wanted to be when I had a family - the person I was when my husband was living. I know that as my daughter gets older, I'll be able to a bit more. But please remember, the majority of people who are so critical of you are struggling with pure jealousy. Their critical remarks are their ways of trying to make themselves feel better about why they are doing what they do. Keep your chin and please know that you are an inspiration to a lot of people out in this world!!! God bless you and I am praying that a hedge of comfort and peace surround you!!!
Oh, I'm so, so sorry to hear about your husband, Jackie. I just can't even imagine. 🙁
Guess what? One of the reasons I love this site is because you don't come off being perfect. I love the down to earth, normality of this site ( if that makes sense). For me, this site is a bit like coming home; its like the smell of chocolate chip cookies, or the warmth of a fire on a blustery cold day, a place where you can feel, well, normal and safe. I love reading about your family, about your attempts at new things, and yes, your failures also. And you know, I am so amazed how you can take care of your family the way you do, and still find the time for this site. I think you're a talented, wonderful person and hope you never change (but only to grow closer to Him who completely understands what it's like to be misunderstood) God bless you, your home, your family, and this site.
Oh, I love that! The idea that my blog feels like a warm, homey place.
Well said, Paul A. I am intotal agreement!
I adore you and your blog. Saying that, I have felt those pangs of guilt when I see pics of your children enjoying such a leisurely pace (and quality) of life. I'm just wondering if negative commenters take that guilt and lash out at others instead of realizing what they're really feeling could be envy? It's that way for me at least. I'm blessed beyond measure, but I do work outside the home and personally wish I didn't have to. I would just imagine that, if a person was 100% content with their life's choices (assuming it is indeed a choice, not a necessity), they wouldn't take offense to others' lifestyles. Please know that I never feel like you're bragging when you post these types of things. It actually inspires me to make the best of the time we do have together!
I don't believe you are trying to portray this wonderful fairytale life. I believe you are someone who instead of complaining because your kids were fighting all day, has learned to be grateful they are healthy enough to fight. I believe you are a person who" instead of wanting things you don't have, you are truly greatful for the things you don't have, that you don't want."
I am sorry that recent comments from people have made you feel bad about yourself and your lifestyle. Your blog is, at its core, about making the best out of what little you may have in your life... and to be honest, it is a shame that people have criticized you about the joy you have shared about the smaller things in life - being at the park with your children, blowing bubbles, being able to sleep in later.
You post about the ups and the downs in life, and someone shouldn't judge you harshly just because the ratio of those posts aren't 50/50. You have mentioned in the past that you don't want to be like other blogs that just write about the positives in life, because that is not your life. You have blogged an incredible amount about failures and conflicts, and it takes more courage to share those things with the world. I mean, hey, a major segment of your blog is about how you screw up every week with food waste!
Sure, you may make others feel envious of your life, of your productivity and accomplishments... but people shouldn't let that spiral down into a pool of jealousy and depression. They should be inspired! Inspired to have such an amazing outlook on life, inspired to do more in their lives in order to achieve some semblance of contentment with their current station in life.
I think that the best thing about this recent experience of yours, to be honest, is that you know now just how honest and upfront your readers are. Your blog makes them feel comfortable enough to share feelings that they may have not otherwise, which is a victory in and of itself.
I haven't been on to check your blog in a few days because of a busy schedule. However, I read your lastest post and felt strongly enough to want you to know that you are inspiring. I check your blog because I am inspired and know that you have similar beliefs and goals. Please know that you and your blog inspire Moms to be better stewards of their finances and time. Keep up the good work and do not be discouraged. Do not let the "destroyer/distracter" (aka satan) take you from doing what God has laid upon your heart. Keep on, keeping on frugal girl! You are teaching and yet you have a humble spirit and I do see that in your posts. I have a soft spirit as well, keep God's truth at heart. Do not listen to what others "say" when you know the truth in your heart. I love your blog and besides proverbs31 ministries and my email & facebook I always check to see what is on your blog! 🙂
Dear Kristen, It breaks my heart to imagine you writing a blog post and crying. Of course none of us is perfect and I appreciate you talking about being grateful and cheerful, while at the same time admitting you are not always perfect.
I have nothing but respect for you and so appreciate your blog.
Hugs and love from Angela
You are a dear as always, Angela. Mwah!
I have read your blog forever and a day. You are an inspiration to me. You present yourself as a cheerful person who doesn't dwell on the negatives of life. I love that about your blog. It is a shame that there are people in this world that think perfect exists here on this Earth. If they don't like what you say or how you portray yourself then they don't have to read your blog, the choice is theirs. Thank you for helping to inspire me in such a way that friends have asked me: "how come your life is so perfect?" I laughed and took it as a compliment that I am not focusing on the coulda, woulda, shoulda but on the good that is in my life.
That's an interesting way of looking at it. If we each are focusing on and talking about the good in our lives, our lives will indeed appear to be lovely (and in my experience, when I'm focusing on the good, my life FEELS more lovely...it doesn't just appear that way).
Kristin,
Beautifully put. 🙂 I have been reading your blog for a few months now (and I'll admit, looking back at ones I've missed, too!), and all I can say is that you are a woman to look up to. You do things in your marriage, your parenting, and your home that I aspire to do, yet you manage to keep a tone of humility in your blog. I love it! Unfortunately, some people don't get the whole picture when they read only a few blog entries, but please don't let that discourage you. Your blog is a blessing to many!
Tiffany
Don't let them get you down! You do NOT try to show nothing but the good stuff and pretend your life's perfect--I've been reading on and off for a few years now and seriously, people need to just chill. (The internet can be full of trolls as well as good people. Most folks are a bit of both. People who aren't content with their lives often find so much fault with those who make the best of it, and it's unfortunate.) Take it from a where's-my-silver-lining?, why-is-this-glass-half-empty? type...you're doing great and not misrepresenting by any visible means.
I think I just realized that yesterday's flamer (who shall remain unnamed) only has ONE kid. I just have to shake my head. Don't worry about developing a thicker skin. Your sensitivity makes you the kind, caring person that you are. This too shall pass...
Kristen, I love reading your blog and all the helpful hits that you give us the readers. I am a middle aged women with my daughter raised and I too can use encouragment and I get that from your blog. I believe this is an attack from (you know who) and attacking your character to which our Lord gave you in the beginning. Jeremiah 29:11 says "I know the plans I have for you " says the Lord . They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope. So keep your chin up , there are more of us that find good in your blog so shake the dust off of your sandals and keep do what your doing. God Bless, you sista!
Kristen, I don't have the time I'd like at the moment to craft a really encouraging comment, but I think your blog is perfect the way it is, and you seem like a lovely girl anyone would be lucky to know "in real life". You inspire me on a regular basis. Keep it up! And thanks!
Kristen:
I have never posted anything on a website before but I had to tell you what a positive effect your blog has had on my life. I look forward to reading it every morning because it makes me feel like i'm not alone. Your life is what I've always wanted mine to be. I wanted to homeschool, I love simplicity, recycling, and making my own foods. My husband and children however, value other things! So your posts inspire me to do little things that bring me joy and make me feel like i'm leaving a valuable mark on my family. I think anytime you do things that are "non-conforming" someone is going to try to knock you down. Don't let 'em!
Kristen...I was just telling someone yesterday about your site and others like it - how it makes me feel so good that younger women with families are doing some of the "old fashioned" things to keep the family fed, clothed, and sane in a really mixed-up world....I'm a bit older than you and perhaps many of your readers....to anyone who is really critical I say take a look in the mirror...see how green those little peepers are!...and they can always weave together some grass clothes and sleep outside in a tent and eat a compost sandwich if that appeals to you and makes you feel good about your self.....Kristen--you go girl!!!
I'm also someone who has never commented, but this made me come out of hiding.
There are hundreds (if not thousands!) of people that love your blog, and I am one of them. I'm a single graduate student who is also a Christian, and I love your posts on frugality and faith and everything else. The things that I can't apply to my life right now (no husband or kids) I file away in my head for a time in my life when I hope I do have those things.
You have never come across as perfect or holier-than-thou or bragging to me. You reference your frugality many times when describing how you make your lifestyle work. I hope that there is some solace about some rough comments in that you have made a community that is open enough to voice their opinions, even if they unintentionally hurt you. I think that kind of a community on a blog is rare and good. I hope your day gets better and if you need/want a few days of blogging hiatus, I'd be the first reader to tell you to go for it 🙂
I find your blog inspirational and some of your tips and advice quite useful. I find your general cheerfulness a balm on a bad day. I am envious of your strong faith. March on, woman!
Dear Kristen,
Your thin skin is what gives you the sensitivity to answer readers' questions as delicately as you do, and to tiptoe through some potential minefields in your readers' comments. It also gives you the ability to see humour in what for others would be negative situations. To me that humour rings clear throughout your accounts of day-to-day life. You don't need to change because somebody else was feeling petty, and may be regretting her words as well. Your readers have shown and told you how much they love you. It may be hard for someone as genuinely nice as you to understand why a person would leave negative comments about someone else's positivity - it doesn't make a whole lot of sense. But I would say something else was bothering her that got triggered by what you wrote. That's unfortunate, but it's her issue, not yours. My hope for you is that you can put it down and let it go, and feel the love that everyone here is expressing today.
You know, that's something I really hadn't thought of before...that my thin skin is related to an upside of my personality. I am very compassionate and I'm usually pretty good at anticipating other people's needs and understanding their feelings, and I suppose that does sort of go hand in hand with being thin-skinned. It's all part of being sensitive.
Not that I shouldn't work on being thicker-skinned, of course! But it's nice to think that it's related to something sort of good about me.
Thanks for sharing that thought!
Kristen:
I don't know you and you don't know me, but based on your comment about needing thicker skin, I would say we are alike in that respect! I have followed your blog for a good year now and I enjoy it because I find it very motivating to do what you do. . . Find the good in my day! I love how even on Food Waste Friday you seem to find a silver linning!! Please know that if someone finds your blog offensive there is a very simple solution for them. . .it's called unsubscribe! God has given you the talent and sharing method that allows so many of us to "Cheerfully live on less"! His will be done!!
Oh my goodness! I'm so sorry that you're upset. I've read your blog for a while now and it's a bright spot in my day - and your pictures are so neat! Deep breaths, deep breaths - I hope you're away from the computer doing something soothing like baking. I saw that something was going on on Twitter but didn't track how bad it was. Take care of yourself. We love you out here in Internet-land.
I SO admire your desire to be content and cheerful! This world tries so hard to tell us that we should always want the next big thing, that we should always be striving to be upwardly mobile and to have success in our careers. But I'm finding I'm content with the work I have, even though a lot of my friends wouldn't be. (It's "boring".) I don't care if I'm promoted a gazillion times or if I have a fascinating job, all I want is to provide for my family. They're priority one, after God.
And you're a strong voice advocating for that. Reading your blog comforts me when I feel like I'm foolish for having the priorities that I have.
You're the reason I started baking bread for my family! We haven't bought bread since late August and it's AWESOME!
I don't make many comments on blogs that I read. But I really enjoy your blog. Every post actually. And while I don't do everything that you do (while I am striving for it!!) none of it upsets me. There is just too much negativity in the world. Jealousy is a terrible thing. And I personally feel that people who decide to put negative comments on anything (editorials, blogs, Face Book, etc.) are usually just jealous of someone or something. I now strive to only put things that I am thankful for on my Face Book status. Too much negativity already in the world. Two things:
1. If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all.
2. If you don't like what is going on/what you are reading - quit reading and/or following the blog. No one is forcing anyone to read it.
Keep up the great posts!! And THANK YOU for your positive, cheerful outlook on life.
Hi Kristen,
I don't put too much stock in coincidences, but something exactly like this happened this week on another site I read, so maybe it's just in the cyber air? 😉
The authors there also felt very hurt. I think we all know that you're putting little pieces of your heart out here everyday and we all love you for it. I'm pretty "thin-skinned" too, and I'm pretty sure I would feel the same way. What I am trying to work on -- and what came out of the frenzy of the other site -- was that what other people think/feel about me/mine has very little to do with me. Now, I don't think that gives people an excuse to not be considerate, but it's a useful way to deal with things I cannot control. I don't think anyone here is not your fan though, and that's kind of a big deal. 🙂
Heart you much!
One more that says how wonderful your blog is. Never thought you were perfect. That is part of the wonderfulness. You are like the rest of us. That said, I also like reading because it is a shining spot in my day. And I so miss my kids, yours are a small substitution. Sorry the world got to you. Given the above comments, know that you are virtually hugged!!!! by a lot of people!!!!
Kristen,
I've been reading your blog for over a year now. I'm more a lurker than an active participant, but I have to comment to this. If someone assumes that you feel your life is perfect, they should REALLY read. Someone who's life is perfect doesn't exist, but even if they FELT that their life is perfect, generally aren't grateful for what they have. Seriously. In order to be grateful for what you DO have, you have to either experience or understand what you COULD be experiencing.
Someone says you could be more humble and show less "happy", but really, showing GRATITUDE for what you have IS being humble. Being happy with what you have IS humble. I find your blog refreshing and reminds me to be grateful for what I have. Not because I have anything BETTER than you, but because you ARE happy with your lot in life and that though you do struggle (which you DO blog about sometimes) you still find the ability to be grateful. God leads you to live your life joyously and that's how you choose to do it.
If someone feels that you are putting their lifestyle down because YOU prefer your lifestyle, then they have their own issues to deal with and they need to toughen up THEIR skin. I prefer my life, that's why I live it the way I do. If I didn't, I'd do something to change it. They obviously feel that their life is preferable because that's how they CHOOSE to live it. I've never seen you tell anyone directly or otherwise that their life is something to be pitied.
I'm a poor Christian. I leave a LOT to be desired. However, I wake every morning with the hope that I can live JOYOUSLY and that I can lift up God with my THOUGHTS and ACTIONS, though I know that by the end of the day, I'll have my failures. But for every day that I am joyous, it makes the next day even easier to be joyful. The more I focus on how bad I am, the worse I feel and become.
So I know this is epic in length. And I apologize for it, but thinking that you're feeling so down because others have issues that they're displacing onto you, makes me angry. You inspire people to be better people. For the new to Christianity people, you SHOW them how to LIVE joyously. BELIEVE me, it's INVALUABLE.
So, in closing, Thank you for being WHO you are and for putting it out here for all of us to see.
Take care and be blessed,
Tracy
Kristen,
I have read your blog nearly every day for two years now. I also follow you on Facebook and Twitter. Though I don't normally read the comments, I did yesterday after seeing your tweets. I have never left a comment before, but feel compelled to now.
I am a married Christian woman who works full time outside of her home; though my husband and I do not currently have any children (we've lost three), even if we did, I would have to continue working outside of our home because of our financial situation. So, in short, I am and would be in a very different situation that you are in.
However, despite our different living situations, you are an inspiration to me in many ways: to not waste food, to live frugally, to take delight in and be content with my family and children and the simple things, to live life as my Lord would want me to, to stay positive and optimistic, and to not be afraid to fail or make mistakes or be imperfect.
I know that the grace of the Lord will keep you lifted, as I will keep you lifted in my prayers. Do not be discouraged!
Ohh, Vanessa. I'm so sorry to hear that you've lost three children. Much love to you.
Thank you! Though I would certainly not ask to go through it again, it has reminded me how God can bless you through any circumstance. It has brought my husband and I closer together and really taught us to trust and lean on the Lord no matter what. And having positive, God-loving people like you around, whether it be in person or online, is always a blessing!!
Oh Kristen. It's ok! I enjoy your blog, contentment/realism/whatEVER you have to offer. And I really like your pictures. Sending you thick skin wishes.
Aww Kristen, dry your tears! I've been only around for a couple of months... but I've spent those pretty much in your archives. I love your blog and, as another lawyer already remarked, I love the way you bring your values into everyday live.
I have been posting at a Dutch parenting forum and clashes like these happened a lot there, until everybody realised that choices about how you solve this whole work-childcare thing are soooo personal; the only way you can talk about is is when you're aware of your own position and views on the matter, and of your own feelings about how you solved this problem yourself. So really, what happened the other day was very common and please don't let it stop you writing this wonderful blog!
Oh boy, I just caught up on the ado of the last couple of days and I'm just sorry that there was a person or two who were lacking grace and tact in their comments. I internalize too many things too, so I think I can begin to understand your own feelings. I had a rough and somewhat weepy morning for other reasons and your post today encouraged me, as always. Some of those who commented had some really wonderful things to say which have been a blessing to me in my moments of weakness today.
Any constellation, You are still my hero!!!!! I love the joy you bring to this site ans many many lives you have touched! I appreciate every second you log onto your blog!
Ugh, haters are terrible, aren't they? I read your blog nearly ever single day and find your cheerfulness refreshing. Thanks for all the time and effort you put into your blog.
Kristen
Keep doing what you are doing...no tears...no doubts...your blog has mass appeal from homeschoolers to private schoolers to full time moms to part time and full time outside the house moms. I do not come here to compare with you, I come here because you are nice and your recipes are yum (the beef au jus sandwiches...aahhh I dream about!!) And your outlook helps me with mine...I am a bottle half empty kind of girl, alway have been. You've helped me and I am grateful, so thank you!
Awwwww, PLEASE do not cry or be sad Kristen. You know you are doing the best you can and you are raising four good kids. You KNOW you just cannot make everyone happy in this life. If you don't know those two things then I am telling you this!! LOL.
To think that you are sad actually makes me want to cry too. I love your blog, so please brush this one off. Brush off the negative's and keep doing the best you are known for ...k?
I don't comment very often, but had to today. Your blog is such a blessing in my life. It is one of the first that I check each morning! I have learned so much from you: to focus on the positive, to make yogurt(!) and french bread, to let go of the "little" things, to be proud of being frugal. I could go on and on. Please keep doing things the way you do them! Love and prayers to you.
This is why I will never blog seriously. Why in the world should you have to justify a positive tone or even, heaven forbid, presenting yourself in a positive light? And, let me assure you, were you to do otherwise you'd most certainly get criticism for that. Unless there is something very important to be learned from it, I don't feel the need to display my flaws and failings to those outside my intimate circle. Strangers on the Internet? They are not your intimate circle - no matter what they feel entitled to. I expect your children will be glad one day that what future employers, dates and strangers can read about their family is largely positive and always respectful... And for the record, I can and sometimes do disagree with you or admire you or wish I lived up to a standard your discussing better than I do without that being your responsibility. It's on me to decide how I incorporate it in my life...or don't.
Yes, yes! I don't expect everything I write to be helpful to everyone, and I don't expect everyone to agree with me either.
I guess what I do expect is for people to be as polite to me as I am to them, and maybe I need to spell that out in a commenting policy or something. I mean, I really shouldn't have to let someone come on my blog and be all, "You should be ashamed of yourself for encouraging people to shop at Aldi!".
I agree with a commenting policy. It should be entirely at your discretion, and if you find something to be negative and something that will spark a huge verbal fire, then just hit the delete button and let them deal with their own negativity 🙂
Oh, Kristen. Don't cry. Don't be frustrated. Don't be discouraged. Please, please keep on blogging exactly the way you do, for it is what makes me LOVE this blog. I catch up on your blog a couple times a week and I always leave feeling refreshed, inspired and encouraged to go about my day cheerfully. Don't let those that (for whatever reason it may be... jealousy? insecurity?) can't handle your love for your life and your optimism get you down. You don't need to explain yourself to them. In fact, there's nothing to explain! We all know, whether we acknowledge it often or not, that NONE of us are perfect. But, I believe those that are like you will do the best because of their positivity and sincerity in their efforts. Some people just need to keep that in mind while they read your blog and remember that this is just you doing a happy, heck of a job, yet all the while imperfect. So many of us here feel like we really KNOW you, and I think I can speak for them too, we really LOVE you.
Keep on cheerfully living on less, girl.
HUGS!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 😉
Kristen,
Thank you so much for your honesty in this blog! You have been such an inspiration and blessing to me through your words in this website. I love that you show how much fun kids can be! (Which I found so helpful in the really rough first few weeks of my son's life.) And I love that you show how joyful a sweet, simple life is if you look for the things that truly matter to you and fill it with them. You're an optimist and an idealist and, as a fellow optimist and idealist, I find that SO refreshing.
I've read the phrase "It doesn't have to be perfect to bless other people" on here several times and love that attitude - I've totally adopted the saying for my own life. I think that applies to the situation as well, though. Your blog isn't perfect and your life isn't perfect (and your readers aren't perfect either), but you are a tremendous blessing and are such an encouragement.
I hope your kiddos and Mr. FG give you lots of hugs today!
Kristen, your positivity is one of the reason I continue to read your blog! I've been trying to change my attitude and be grateful for what I have, and you've been a big inspiration to me. Don't let the negative nellies get you down.
I want you to know how much I appreciate your blog, your kindness, your upbeat look on life and that even though you aren't perfect, you make a conscious choice to focus on the good in life. There are so many people in this world that only focus on the negative and it is so hard to be around and support people like that. I love reading your blog because it inspires me to be a better person. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, but please know that you can't please everyone and so many of us are here to support you and are so thankful for your optimistic nature! Don't change a thing (other than allowing others to make you cry that had no business to do so in the first place!). But even that makes you who you are, whom I feel privileged to "know" via your blog. Again, to me, you are super inspiring and I enjoy all your posts!
Hang in there lady. I'm not a mother and I'm hardly frugal but I was drawn to your blog because you seemed real to me. Someone I'd want to take tips from. So pick your head up and move forward and move on. No one is perfect and no one needs or expects you to be. Just be you and be happy with that. There are 100s if not more people who appreciate you and your blog. For that - thank you!
wanna know how often i read your blog? every day! wanna know how often i quote you? at least once a week!
you are the kind of person i want as a friend. (too bad we've got 3,000 miles between us!) i have some friends like you who inspire, encourage and uplift me. and i have some i want to avoid who bring me down and make me feel yucky. i agree with other comments: those who lash out at you have issues of their own.
love you...
please don't cry another tear, and keep writing just as you have been. i love your blog!
Kristen, There are perky and preachy blogs, there are negative and snarky blogs, and then there are blogs like yours -- which is neither. I read a LOT of blogs and yours is one of my favorites. You have a wonderful ability to share your life without seeming to be perfect or a phony. You've got a sense of humor, but you're never nasty at someone else's expense. Please don't feel you have to give examples of why you're not perfect in order to please readers. I think most of us can read between the lines. You are one of the few bloggers I'd like to meet in real life. Not a stalker, I promise. 🙂
Kristen I too wanted to comment that I love your blog and it inspires me despite our lives being totally different! I truly cherish your blog.
It's so transparent what a cheerful person you are that when I come to your blog it cheers my day up. You have great recipes and helpful tips and I love both your positive posts that inspire me to push myself and your "failings" posts which make me realize no one is perfect.
I know you probably won't become completely hard-skinned over night but may you can take heart that commenters aren't perfect either unfortunately but that shouldn't ruin how great most of them are or how wonderful your blog is.
That's a wise point...it's good to remember to extend grace to people who are maybe not being so gracious to us.
Nobody is perfect, so what.
I like your blog.
Dirkie
Nobody is perfect, so what.
I like your blog.
Dirkie
I am a new fan of your blog, Kristen, and I feel absolutely compelled to comment! You are fabulous, real, imperfect, faithful, and just all-around great. Please do not let the jealousy of others get you down. Your blog is going to be an even greater success over time, because you are so lovable and your ideas are so inspiring to homemakers. The jealous posts will continue, and maybe even get worse as you continue on this path. Please remember those of us who really are blessed by the bits of your life you choose to share. I, for one, need to offer you my thanks, for brightening up so many of my dark days. I will continue to read and offer my support to you. Good people deserve to be successful.
I read your blog because it gives advice on "cheerfully living on less". Nearly every day, I come here and am inspired to either be more cheerful, grateful or frugal (among other things). I can't tell you how many things I have tried or rethought because of a recipe or tip you posted, a photo essay, or just a I'm feeling... post. I never log off of here feeling depressed or that you come off as above or better than me. (except when I just baked yet another heavy loaf of bread, and I see your perfect pictures, LOL. Just kidding- I love your pictures of what things are supposed to look like!!! I think you may have shared a flop before though...)
I will say it's nice to know that you have days that aren't all sunshine and rainbows, it keeps you "real". But I wouldn't like your blog nearly as much if it wasn't so upbeat and positive. Send more sunshine please! And more recipies!!!
Yup, there's a link to some bread flops up there! 🙂
Hi Kristen,
I have been reading your blog for a year and I would like to let you know that you challenge me to be better.
God bless
hAters gonna hate, as my husband would say. Thank you for always reminding me that the most frugal thing one can possess is a cheerful, optimistic spirit. You have never judged anyone. They judged themselves.
Did you dry your eyes? and hold your head up high? and maybe get some extra hugs from your kids today? And maybe ........just have a cup of tea and just relax and tell yourself " I am a wonderful creation and I am only human"
I am checking on you again even though I already left a comment earlier. Just really want to make sure you are having a better day! I wish I could know that you felt a bit better. I bet you are though, you had time to be sad and now you will just forge on because that is what is left to do!.
I hope I could help you feel just a little bit better today Kristen.
Joanne
I had a good cry on Mr. FG's shoulder, some hugs and sympathy from him, and some hugs from kiddos too. 🙂
Funny you mention tea...I wanted some chai, but had no half and half (and milk will not do!). But I needed milk too, so that was enough to make me head to the store for a few things. So now I have some half and half, and I'm planning to snuggle up with some tea and a book.
Chai or chocolate can fix a lot of things, I think.
I was going to say chocolate too hehe:) Have a good night Kristen, you deserve it.
Oh, that sounds like a lovely evening! Enjoy! <3
Ignore peoples rude comments ( some people just try to find a negative in anything..especially when there is not one to be found ). I love your blog, and you never come across as perfect. Your blog is so helpful.:) God bless you and your family, and please keep up the awesome blog!!!:)
I look forward to your blog every day! I think you are humble, helpful, and happy, and it's a great service that you do for others. It's because you're so open about your imperfections that your blog is encouraging rather than guilt-inducing. Thanks for all you do!!
I admire you! HUGS
keep on truckin', Kristen. Please don't let a vocal minority get you down. Let it roll off... like water off a duck's back.
Kristen,
I'm astounded that anyone would be so crass as to comment negatively about you in a public forum. They obviously have attention seeking issues and need to take a cue FROM YOU, look on the bright side, and lean on God. Remember that you are a child of God, and He knows their judgemental hearts. He will judge them with the measure with which they have judged you. I grew up with very commentating judgemental people and aptly learned to take it cum granis salis (one of the few things I remember from 3 years of HS latin: with a grain of salt). Maybe they need to get their own blog, find readers, and think of something everyday! Or maybe they need to find something better to do with their time than be negative. I am personally very inspired by you, your commitment to your family, and your stewardship of your blessings. May the peace that is beyond understanding comfort you today. May you forget completely any and all of this ridiculous chatter. Blessings to you and your family, sweet sister.
I have been reading your blog for a bit and I have never thought you try to present yourself as perfect. I like your blog and I like the tone of your writings. It reminds me to enjoy what I have instead of wishing for what I don't
Message from a Golden Oldie (OK, nearly 60 anyway) in England.
Kristen, honey, of course you're not perfect. Even if you were, someone would find fault and criticise anyway - look at the Perfect Example we have. There's always (and always has been) someone who will find fault and criticise - and it can be a hidden blessing or a curse, depending on how it is received and handled.
This is how I see you, as shown in your blog posts. You are:
someone who always tries to see things from God's perspective
someone who looks at life and speaks Life to it
someone who works to be the best she can be
someone who values her husband and her children and who wants the best for them
someone who understands sacrificial love in her own life
someone who never takes blessings for granted
someone who is a good steward of what she has been given
someone who knows she is blessed and does her best to share that blessing with others
I could go on but I won't. I've been reading your blog now for quite a while and it's one of the first things I do when I switch on my PC each morning after writing my own blog. It's been so helpful, so inspiring, so encouraging.
Remember, Kristen, you've had a lot of changes recently, one way and another. Big changes which have demanded a radical rethink of the way you organise your day. There's nothing wrong with changes, they are often a very good thing, but they can be very tiring and one can feel weary. I don't think crying indicates that there's something wrong but maybe it indicates that you need to be kinder to yourself, love yourself as you love others and just rest in God's love for you as His special child, rather than worrying about the criticisms that the world loves to give out. And then to weep with God's tears . . .
Sorry this is such a long post. I hope it helps and I am praying that God will so surround you with His love that you see everything through that. (((hugs)))
Joy xxx
Thank you. Your comment brought tears to my eyes in a good way.
who's being mean to you?! that's terrible.
I enjoy your sense of optimism. It might be obvious to state, but people who dislike your cheerfulness could just go read something else.
Ah yes. One of the mysteries of the blogosphere...why people continue to read things they hate (seriously, I've seen blogs where a particular person comments crabbily on every single post!).
Another mystery? Why so many people seem to feel that happiness is a fault that must be criticized. Because, you know, it would be just DREADFUL if happiness was spread around.
Sorry to hear that feedback has got your down :(.
Keep up the good work, I LOVE your blog. Enough said 🙂
Hanneke
(from NZ)
Kristen,
I haven't read the comments yet but my guess is you are receiving tremendous support. You do not owe any of us a justification for your cheeriness (sp) or lack thereof. You are a wonderful inspiration to me and many, many others. My thoughts are with you today.
Kristen,
I found your blog about a year ago and have been following ever since, reading it almost daily! I didn't see the negative feedback, but I want you to know I love love love your positive attitude and genuine love of being frugal. This is something I aspire to and reading your blog is an encouragement to me.
People will always find a way to be negative and try to disguise it as constructive criticism. We come here to learn about ways to help our families be more frugal. I for one appreciate this blog exactly how it is. I hope you don't feel the need to justify what you post to anyone. This is your little piece of the web and we love it for that reason.
Kristin!
We can all see that you have so much support by all of the people who have commented with positive things for you. Sometime it is hard to ignore the negative despite all the positive. I take a lot of things to heart as well. So many of us love you and what you do! So don't fret!
hugs,
Brooke
Dear Kristen,
As one of your readers who's been around for years (and keeps coming back for more) I really don't have anything insightful or a particular anecdote to pull out, I'll just say:
God loves you, and so do I.
(Mr. FG and my wife totes don't have to worry as it's in the "love thy neighbor" love) 😀
Ditto this.
Kristen, try not to let it worry you, you're an inspiration 🙂
Oh, no worries. I know you're head over heels for your new wifey. 🙂
Lending my voice of support. I know it's hard not to take criticism personally, but the two biggest critics that I saw are coming off as seriously unbalanced. Haters hate. 😉 Your blog is great and fun to read.
*hugs* Hope the chocolate helped 🙂 I love your blog and your cheerful heart for God!
I read your blog daily. I don't read many but yours is an everyday thing. When I read this I thought, " What was that about?" I had to read the comments in the day before's post to understand. I think it is courageous to put your views about homemaking out there and I am grateful you do. It is obvious that is what you do: make house and family a home.
P.S. I miss the Wed. baking also. Just sayin'!
I am probably not your typical reader (22 year old med student), but I love your blog! I feel like you live right down the street from me and that you are the super cheerful neighbor that I always want to say hi to. Your recipes look awesome, your pictures are amazing, and your children and husband must be fantastic. You might not be perfect, but you are perfect for your life! I started reading your blog a few weeks ago as I look for more ways to keep my expenses down (med students have no money!) and I have since gone back and read all the way to the beginning of your blog. Keep up the good work--and thanks for keeping it real.
Kristen this will pass. You will end up with a thicker skin, which isn't a bad thing; it's horrible that this would even be necessary, but the Internet s a hotbed of phoniness. People unsatisfied with their own lives can't wait to tear you down.
There are actually " I Hate Rachel Ray" websites; ditto for Sandra Lee and Puoneer Woman. It's a free country and you can like or dislike anyone you want. But to actually go to the trouble to create a website...or start a campaign on Twitter...reminds me of junior high school. But for adults, it crosses the line.
I am one of the ones who doesn't know what happened. But I too have a thinnish skin and know how I would feel...and that makes me want to cry for you. I simply can't bear it when someone's feelings are hurt..
Oh, yes. Sites like that just make me so sad. I just really cannot understand what drives people to be so hateful...it breaks my heart. People who devote that much time and energy to tearing someone down must not have enough interesting things going on in their real lives or something.
Hi Kristen,
I've read your blog for a few years. It often helps and inspires me, and sometimes makes me smile. I rarely comment, but I do read it almost every day! It's actually the first blog I check in the morning.
I gladly receive what you offer, and if something doesn't mesh with my lifestyle or beliefs, or even just my mood that day, I still thank you for offering it. I remember a while back when you posted about 'The Blogs TFG Reads' (paraphrasing there) and you said you love SouleMama's blog. Even though you don't agree with her beliefs and you're not as crafty as her, you still receive what she offers. I think that sentiment captures exactly how I feel about your blog. I'm glad your blog is here, and I think 99% of your readers must feel the same!
Just another appreciative note 🙂
PLEASE don't change anything about your blog ~ please share exactly what you plan to share each and every day! God blessed you to be exactly how you are and you inspire so many people!
There are bitter and angry folks out there and no matter what you say/write/share/do they are going to be bitter and angry and fling it in your direction ~ because they think it will make them feel better (but it doesn't).
Don't let people stomp on your joy! Don't let them! Thank you for spending your time sharing your ideas and life with the world.
I am so very sorry for the hurt you have felt! You add sooooo much to my day and wonderful examples you and your family provide. You have your priorities in order! You have God first in your life and you demonstrate that. You choose to be happy and you make other people happy via that. If someone chooses to focus on the negative, you can't help that person by not being yourself. You bless me each day and I thank God for you!!!
You guys, you're the best. Seriously. Thank you for your kind and encouraging words...I appreciate them more than I can say.
I was feeling a little hesitant to write another blog post after all this...I looked through my picture files in Picasa like I usually do before I blog, and there was this nagging feeling that each of them could be interpreted the wrong way. Too happy, too perfect, too...something.
But if I look at blogging that way, and blog in fear, the joy will be completely sucked out of it, the resulting blog posts probably won't serve anyone very well, and I'll probably just want to quit.
So, I'm going to do my best to shake this off and just keep blogging like I have been for the last three years. And I will trust that people who are offended by incessant cheerfulness and happiness are probably just not my target audience.
You will shake it off and you'll be stronger because of it.
Patti
Well said Kristen! Wipe away those tears, what doesn't kill you makes yo stronger! Just know that you inspire us everyday and we love you for it xxx
Oh I hope your blog does not change!!!! I can see how all of this can damage you & cause you to make changes whether you want to or not. It's not fair to you or to all those readers that have loved your blog for so long! I just hope that in a few days you can forget all this and just go back to being you. 🙂
You inspire me everyday to be a better mother! Thank you for all you do. Please continue to do what you do best.
Kristen,
Don't let the negative few get you down.
I look forward to your blog every day.
I have been following many of your frugal tips since I stumbled across your blog, and am so thankful to have found you.
Keep doing exactly what you are doing. We appreciate you!
I'm in Texas, can someone enlighten me about Aldi? Is there something about it that's controversial?
This won't answer your question but I know they have a few Aldi's in Texas. I used to live in Batavia, Illinois and that is where they are headquatered. Lived there for 10 years and LOVED the town and LOVED Aldi. If you have one near you , go and try it out! I am in Tucson, Arizona now and I have missed Aldi so much. You don't know much you will miss one, until you cannot get to one LOL!
I email them every now and then asking if they will come here and they say they have no plans too :(. Ugh why can't I have an Aldi here?
The person who wrote about Aldi went on this personal crusade against Kristen accusing her of being bought off by them, of poisoning her children (because Aldi sells processed foods like every other grocery store), and of basically trying to brain-wash her readers. She claimed that it's Kristen's fault she tried Aldi and hated it, simply because the woman saw pictures of Aldi food here. Very strange and anger-filled accusations that were totally uncalled for.
Yes, Aldi sells processed foods, but as many people pointed out to the commenter, so do many other grocery stores. The person was insistent that other grocery stores offer more options and basically said that Aldi was single-handedly poisoning the world, and that's pretty much what went down.
Just someone rambling on about a personal agenda while attacking an innocent blogger who has no control over processed foods sold or bad experiences with one store.
Hon, you do what your heart says and what the Lord leads you to do/say. Then you know you have been true to yourself and your values. Thats all you need to do. No apologies or explanations needed.
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another thin skinned frugal mom 🙂
becky
Hi Kristen,
I have been happily lurking here for over a year and I have nothing but love and admiration for you. I don't ever read the comments section so I am not up to speed on what others have been writing but I will say when people in general are miserable they try and pass their misery on to you because somehow it makes them feel good. Ignore them, I know easy for the person who never reads the comments to say. You always present yourself as you are and I have learned so much from you. Thank you! Thank you for taking the time to share your knowledge with the rest of the world when your life is overflowing already. Wipe your tears, hug your children, smooch your husband and blog away sweet Kristen!
Kristen,
I follow your blog daily and have done so for awhile now (although never leaving a comment). I felt compelled to let you know that I find your blog truly inspirational and uplifting.
You have renewed my passion for baking (much to the delight of my family), inspired me to try new recipes and to live more frugally.
It is so refreshing to find a blog that focuses on the beauty and positivity of family togetherness, morals/values, love of God.....all the things that are so fundamentally important to me!
Your blog is AWESOME! Keep doing what you're doing because what you have created is just wonderful!
You rock, girl!! 'Nuff said! 😉
Dear Frugal Girl Kristen,
After 15 months of reading your blog and not making any comments, this post moved me to speak up. The pain in your heart is very obvious. I like your positive and upbeat attitude, your work ethic, your frankness and sincerity about your faith, your photos, etc. I think you are honest about your faults & failings. You're very human and you sound like a lot of fun! I really liked the post a few days ago about playing at the park-the pictures on the slide were great! Your self-discipline (posting almost daily) and organizational skills are inspirational, as well. Keep up the good work!
Kristin,
I'm not as nice as you are, so I'll say this for you:
Anyone who doesn't like your blog can take a very long walk off a very short pier.
Actually, that is a much nicer version than I really want to say, but I respect that this is a family blog and I doubt that you would appreciate the language that I'm tempted to use!
Seriously though, no one is forced to read this, so if they don't like it, they can just click away on another site. Yes, everyone has the right to their own opinion, and they have the right to express it. But that doesn't mean that they SHOULD. And it certainly doesn't mean that the rest of us have to care!
When you are ready to stop writing, when you feel that you have shared enough of your life and your tips, when you are done posting pic and recipes, only then should you stop. Don't stop because some Negative Nelly or Debbie Downer doesn't know when to keep quiet.
Thanks for your awesome blog!
Tara
Well said!
I'm sorry you're feeling down, Kristen.
Here's another perspective: You may be positively affecting those who are criticizing you. As you remember, we clashed something fierce when first we met online, and yet I've come to view you as one of my dear friends over the years. I'm so glad we got to finally meet in person, and I'm so glad to know you! You inspire me not just to be better in ways dealing with home and frugality, but with your optimism. Other people may be having an off day or feeling cross, but they may also be gaining something from you that they aren't identifying right at the moment.
I think there are valid criticisms to be made of many blogs, especially those that, like Pioneer Woman, to name an example you used, are making a good deal of money off of a very particular image that they are promoting. But what you remind me of is that criticism can be made without being cruel, and there are real people behind the screens. Some days it's hard to take even kind criticism, of course, and cold criticism, while not unkind, can feel harsh, but hang in there. Who you are as a person is a someone who is worthy of attention and kindness, and the few naysayers are not the face of the world at large, though of course sometimes their voices are louder.
We've chosen different lives, and on the surface, people might think we wouldn't be able to overcome our differences, but we have, and I'm so glad of it. You make my life richer and more complex. Thanks for keeping on and hang in there. Your voice is a needed voice.
Oh yes...I remember our clashing very well. I'm so embarrassed at how I behaved back then. Dear me.
I count you as one of my dearest online friends too (offline now too, I suppose, since we've met!) and I am delighted and honored that you consider me a friend.
I think we're kind of poster children for the idea that vastly different people can be good friends. 🙂
I owe you an apology. I wrote something rude recently. I have been so proud of myself lately for finally getting over a long period of depression, neglecting friends and putting off doing many things I needed to do. One thing I repented of was saying unkind words. It was something I was constantly doing, when I felt like noone was watching (except the victim of my unkindness). Then my dad told me that I had to be kind all the time--that it was like wearing clothes--something we do even when we are by ourselves. I vowed to not let any unwholesome talk come out of my mouth. But what about my keyboard? I am sorry.
I love your blog and read it every day. I even subscribe to it! How ridiculous am I? Please forgive me.
Oh, Ann, I didn't think your comment was rude! I thought you really just did think that Sonia looked sad. And I forgot to log in and tell you that she wasn't...she just was looking thoughtful at that moment. I just can never quite keep up with responding to comments.
I'm so glad that you're coming OUT of a period of depression, and I hope many brighter days are ahead for you.
I really did think she looked sad, but I feel like it was rude of me to say that...like saying, "Didn't you notice that Sonia looked sad?" I apologize, because there was a catch in my spirit as I was writing it, but I did anyway.
I do love your blog. And I can't even believe you READ all of the comments!! Who could ever expect you to reply to them? (Thanks for responding, by the way, and for the encouragement.)
I love to read comments! It's why, despite the fact that some unhappy ones come through, I always keep the comments open. Blogging with the comments turned off would be simpler but not nearly as much fun.
No worries...your comment was barely a blip on my radar. 🙂
We are all sinners who need God's amazing grace - it is exactly that. Sorry you're feeling the way you are right now - when I read your blog, I feel encouraged (and I like your recipes and seeing what you buy at Aldi!), but I'm certainly not thinking that you're 'perfect'. You don't ever come across that way (at least to me). Perhaps God is quietly growing you into the person He wants you to be by reminding you of who is perfect...
Hey Kristen!
Thank you so much for making an entertaining, informative blog. I'm 55 and a Grandma, but I'm not too old to learn new things. You challenge me (I made my first loaves of scratch bread today, your w/w recipe!,- haven't made homemade bread in many years). You also challenge us to smile and see the sunny side of each situation. Thank you and keep up the good work. You are the hands of God. Love you and your beautiful family.
Marsha
I love your cheerful attitude, please don't change it, or feel like you need to apologize for what's good in your life. Celebrate the good, and commiserate the bad... But there is a fine line between commiserating in the bad, and having an attitude that gets stuck in the muck of life. You're not one of those people, and if you're getting comments from those who are... Be a duck, let it roll off. Matthew 14; You are a good steward of your talents. Talents can be money, children, skills, positivity. Good stewards are given more to manage, and they do it well. You are doing well, and my day is better for reading your blogs.
I too LOVE your blog! I admit I'm not always a glass half full kind of girl, but reading your blog has encouraged me to give it a try. I'm loving the results thus far! Please don't stop being who you are...and don't let the unkind thoughts of others get you down!
When I feel like I need cheering up, I click on your blog to see what the Frugal Girl is up to. Your blog can cheer me up. It reminds me to enjoy the things in life that matter. I don't feel resentful. Just the opposite. And even if I still can't get out of a funk on a particular day, I am happy for you and hope that I can get there too soon. Cheers!
I don't read your blog, but what I did catch looking around yesterday looked fine to me. I came here after a url was shared on another blog and I wanted to check your blog out. I liked what I saw. I wanted to offer some words of support to you. Please don't take negative comments to heart. I don't know what else to say. Remember a bit of critical thinking is needed when reading things on the web (and anywhere, really) Please don't think others support unkind remarks. Just keep doing what you are doing and living your authentic life.
Your blog is a constant reminder of the person I want to be. I wouldn't change a thing!
Your blogging is great! I look forward to reading your posts! Sometimes people are mean, and I don't understand why. I'm hoping you were able to shake it off.
My husband once said something I found profound: why is it we remember the one piece of negative feedback while overlooking the 50 atta-boys? When I read your post tonight, you had 162 comments. While I haven't read all of them, I'm guessing they are all giving you words of compassion and encouragement! I hope the these kind words stick in your head more than the negative ones you received.
Keep up the great work!
Dearest Kristen,
The world is full of crabby people! I am a crabby people. You know what makes me smile when I feel crabby? Reading stories about you and your beautiful family. I have never left a comment, but I have been visiting almost daily for a good bit now. I just thought now would be a good time to say "Thank you!". No tears! Just keep being you.
Warmest Regards,
Lori
Isn't it crazy how someone you've never met (and never will meet) can still manage to RUIN your day? But that's the Internet for you: you can either discourage or encourage from far away, and I am SO grateful that you choose the latter!
Cheerfulness is awesome sauce. That is all.
Oh my, this is what happens when I read your posts early in the morning before we start our day. I had to go back and read so much. Kristen, do not change a thing about your blog or yourself. Well over 100 comments before me echo the same thing. I read your blog as a full time working mom and I read it now as an at home mom. I think with any blog people should skip over posts that are not relevant to them. I pray the most for the people that have caused so much grief. It is obvious that they have something going on in their lives and need our thoughts and prayers. You do not need thick skin. You tried to understand and it just got worse. Your readers come back because you are kind, compassionate and caring. You have a wonderful outlook on life. You are not afraid to talk about your faith but also do it in a way that does not make people with other beliefs, lifestyles etc feel unwelcome. Some people are hard to please or cannot be pleased. You have many awesome readers either lurking or active and we love you just the way you are and we know you are not perfect.
I guess as a busy working mom I had never really thought much about contentment until I read it on your blog. It was really inspiring to me and made me really look at things and think about things much closer. So many people come to your blog for your inspiration, your glass is half full outlook. It really is the best outlook on life. I left a job in a department with so many negative people that I seemed to get more negative, unhappy the longer I was around them. It really brings you down. So why on earth would I want to read a blog written by a negative person.
Thanks for a great blog that I love to come to everyday as well as helping me to find 2 other blogs that I love to visit on a regular basis. (Katy & Amanda Soule)
Kristen,
I do not comment often (should improve on that) and I hate that I feel the need to comment when it becomes controversial instead of making it a daily occurrence. I did read your post yesterday and, despite disagreeing with a couple of points, I refrained from commenting. As someone who has had a bad week and was moody, I did not want something to come across the wrong way or sound critical. Unfortunately, not all of my fellow commenters thought similarly.
We all live different lifestyles and unless we have an illegal lifestyle, who's to say someone else is wrong? We should all be out there finding happiness and enjoying the moments we have with our family and the work we do. You do an excellent job of making that come across, and it's an inspiration to all of us to stop and smell the roses more often. Keep that cheerful attitude and remember, for every negative comment, there's 20 that are totally positive.
As much as having to be teary and hurt is not enjoyable, a good cry sometimes helps once in a while. 🙂
If the worst thing you do is seem perfect, I think you have it made! 😉
Curse you auto correct, you auto correct everything but my name!
You are doing great! It's okay to cry and feel emotional sometimes, but know that you have been a true inspiration to me through your blog. I like that when I come here I can see the positives and let go of the negatives. Don't change a thing! Your readers like you, and your blog just the way you are! 🙂
Wow. Gratitude envy. Who'da thunk?
Dear Kristen,
I read your blog every day. I don't think I've ever commented before, but I wanted to let you know that throughout my busy day wherein I may work as many as three different jobs on top of family and home ownership responsibilities, reading your blog is one of my few guaranteed leisure moments, and looking forward to those moments keeps me going and keeps me thinking positively. I hope that you find the strength to keep going as well, and remind yourself that for every negative comment you see, there are probably a hundred readers thinking positive thoughts who are just too busy to comment.
Love and Light,
Becca
I love the real-ness and authenticity of your blog. That's why I read it regularly. It doesn't inspire me to try to obtain the un-obtainable, but helps me to make the most of what I've been blessed with. I want to encourage you to cast off the idolatry of what others think (unless it was counsel clearly prayed over and Holy Spirit advised) - you are precious in His sight. And your wisdom, advice, faults and recipes have been an invaluable source of benefit to me (as I'm sitting here eating a piece of Frugal Girl Whole Wheat bread for breakfast!). Thank you for helping me! So grateful!
Kristen,
I've never commented before, but I'm a regular reader of your blog even though my life is very different from yours (I don't live in the US, no children, don't share your faith, waaaay older than you!). Please don't change a thing. I fall into the trap of being negative and critical sometimes, but your warm-hearted, positive and optimistic approach, your ethical stance and your frugal lifstyle are truly an inspiration. And you are a wonderful writer too.
So sorry to hear that someone said something that hurt your feelings. Let all of the comments above fill that hurt and let you know that you are loved and appreciated WAY more than the other way around. We all are praying/hoping that our care will help you to forget those unkind words - I know how even one unkind thing can stick so much better than many kind words. I echo many of the comments above that I love your writing adn your open heart about your life. Just made homemade yogurt yesterday after you gave me the courage to try! You ARE making a difference - all the way over to England! 🙂 Now to just work on getting those give aways for some international folks... 😉
xx
Well - look at all the comments! Looks like you are quite loved and the people out there who are just sort of grumpy and can't be pleased...well, don't worry too much about them. 🙂 Love your blog and I'm always quite impressed with how balanced and thoughtful you are about sensitive issues and topics. You can't please everyone...just be you. You are wonderful! 🙂
Have e-mailed you! Chin up Girl! You Rock! 🙂
Kristen, you're too hard on yourself! I love your blog and one reason I keep coming back is your honesty. Perfection doesn't exist. Even if it did, it would be boring! You give 100% and that is amazing!
I've been a regular reader for about 2 years now and can honestly say that if anyone thinks you only post the positive, they aren't reading thoroughly enough. I like to surround myself with positive, happy people who aren't **constantly** complaining. So, I enjoy your blog and read regularly.
As for your posts about certain topics/places, I, for one, am very greatful. Does every post you write pertain to me? Absolutely not! I don't homeschool, but enjoy reading your posts about it! Maybe I don't read as carefully, but I still appreciate a new POV. Since I apparently live relatively close to you, I can (and have!) check out those places you post about.
Jealously, crosses my mind when reading your post! I LOVE your blog! Don't change YOU because someone else has jealously! They will have to deal with themselves. Keep your chin up, you encourage people to live frugal, repurpose what you can, etc! I wouldn't change anything!
Oh this makes me angry! Dont let them get to you, no matter what there is always someone that wants to take the wind out of your sails and criticize. I have been and am in the same position. The one thing you do very right is you look inwardly and concentrate on changing yourself, not others. "Be the change you want to see in this world". You dont get on a soap box and preach about how people should or should not do things. That is way easier to do and is exactly what these other people are doing to you. You are brave enough to put yourself out there and put yourself in a vulnerable position, I doubt that these nay sayers have done the same thing. In this world unfortunately, no matter how hard you try to do the right thing (which you really do) there is always someone there to tell you that you are not doing good enough. I had this samae thought on your q and a post Monday when the person asked why you are not buying all American clothing. Come on! You are mindful in so many areas of your life and they find one spot where they can put you down. If you (or any of us) tried to be perfect in every aspect of our life we would drive ourselves nuts!!! You have chosen your battles and have followed through with them swimmingly. Honestly. if you blogged everyday with a negative attitude I wouldnt read it! I feel passionately about this because I was attacked on line this week as well and no matter how thick you think your skin is, it still gets to you. Just keep doing what you are doing Kristin.
Kristen - your blog has radically changed the way I view my life. So rejoice in that please and not the negative.
Because of your voice here, I have severly curbed my spending, reduced my debt (Literally 12% of the original amount left to pay off) and I am enjoying saving not spending. I love a discount now and am almost competitive in the amount of coupons I can get for free food here in the UK.
I have started visiting Charity shops (UK version of thrift shops) and have changed the way I view money.
This is because of you, you have changed my life (bit melodramatic for a Brit - sorry!) thank you and god bless
Abigail x
I am also now scarily good on reducing my shopping bill and Barely throw away food (this week only half a leek- yay!)
Aww, that is so encouraging to hear. Go you!!!
I know that this is late in post, but I have been encouraged over & over thru your blog...you are the one who lives within yourself...be of good cheer, my friend.
This world that we live in is such a pessimistic world then why not read great and joyful things on the internet? I love your blogs and when I see and read about you and your family it is like I know them and yes nobody is perfect, not me not you the only true one is God. And he has placed you on this earth to bless people with your writings, and your photo's and most of all your family. They love you! you can see it in the pictures that you take. Keep up the great work. Don't ever stop.
FG, i think i commented in the wrong place yesterday...meant to comment here. your blog helps me, buoys my spirits, encourages me to continue on my own personal frugal path, and to pursue God's plan for ME. (clearly God's plan for you is, in part, this LOVELY blog.) don't let the jerks get you down.
i am curious what kind of responses your critics would receive if they were to write their own blogs, and if they would, in turn become softer-of-heart or if they would continue to criticize, hurt, lash out, and crush other bloggers. I can't imagine criticizing you, considering I have no idea how tough it is be a blog writer.
Please keep doing what you're doing. thank you.
Positivity is a powerful thing, FG. Don't let it be taken away from you.
Keep doing what God has called you to do:) You know you are on the right track when the enemy attacks:)
I started reading your blog based on a post that was picked up by BlogHer. It was a positive, non-judgmental, humble post about being frugal. I have been reading your blog ever since. Like others, I may not agree with all you do for a variety of reasons, but I have never gotten the slightest whiff of superiority coming from you.
Yes, you speak a lot about contentment and being happy with what you have. That can rub some people the wrong way but not because you have done anything wrong, but more because of where they are in their lives. For some people, contentment is difficult to find, but you are not responsible for that. I'm sorry that a few bad apples ruined your day. Do not feel the need to justify yourself or point out your imperfections. Superiority NEVER comes across in your blog.
Kristen,
Because of you and your gift of blogging, I have been inspired over the last 3 years of reading your blog to:
- cook from scratch more (I have tried many of your recipes - the chocolate chip banana muffins are the household hit!)
- be more spiritually based with my husband and future family - praying for my husband is a daily goal of mine
- research homeschooling as a viable option for my future children's education
- find joy and contentment in the little things of life and praise God for all life's blessings
- continue to be purposeful in our household's spending and saving
- and the list could go on and on
Thank you!
Wow! I missed a lot of drama while I was unplugged! Kristen, I admire your continuing kindness to others and your energy making life cheerful. Keep up the great work!
Please Kristen, don't cry, you're bringing tears to my eyes. I LOVE your blog and it is now the only one I read every day. I don't always agree with you on everything but your posts give me something to think about and inspire me to be a better person. There is too much sadness in the world so if your blog leans toward happiness then thank goodness for that! God bless you and keep you and your family safe.
Hi Kristen! I LOVE you and your blog; please don't worry for one second about what a few negative people might say. I have always been a stay at home, homeschooling mom. With your online encouragement, I have started baking bread, meal and grocery trip planning, better time management, earlier bedtimes (this one was huge for me!) . Your blog makes me feel happy and cheerful and helps ME to be more happy and cheerful about MY life too, not negative about what I don't have. I think it's fine that you every once in a while point out a flaw or failing and we can all chuckle with you about it, but I love your persistent optimism!!!
Finally, I started reading blogs so much when my baby was stillborn 2 1/2 years ago. I spent lots of time online, feeling negative and depressed. When I finally started to come out of that dark pit, yours was one of my first blogs I latched onto. So, THANK YOU, Kristen, and God Bless You!
Love,
Christie
One of the things I love about your blog is that you aren't afraid to show mistakes. Keep up the great work! Don't let the naysayers get you down.
I missed this conversation yesterday, but I wanted to chime in and let you know that you are loved and followed by many. I have read your blog for years and I still rave about how wonderful it is. You are a wonderful inspiration for all of us and you have really given me a different outlook on many things in life. I thank you for the wonderful and cheery blogs you post every day and that I can always count on reading a blog from you over lunch. We love who you are and are thankful for you letting us get to know you and share your day with us. Thanks Kristen for being you and true to your beliefs and values. I hope for your continued sucess and growth throughout your career.
I'm reading this late, all I have to say is I dig your style, I like that you just plug away at things, and I like how you live your life in a positive way and share that with others! There are *plenty* of negative blogs out there to go find people to argue with, on all topics! I enjoy reading you because it's just nice. I think many people, like me, just need nice things to read. You keep on doing what you're doing, or as Pete the cat would say "No matter what you step in, keep walking along and singing your song..."
Wow, this is an absolute outpouring, a wave of love for you, Kristin! I am humbled just reading it. I hope you are feeling better today, and can go back to choosing pictures and writing with a happy heart. 🙂 Your family is lovely, and there's no such thing as "too happy", "too perfect", etc. The sting of this will fade in time, and I would think that over 200 accolades have the power to tell you how the majority of your readers feel!
I just started following you about a few months ago, and I haven't seen any of the feedback that has gotten you down. I haven't posted before (and obviously I am late on this one), but I just wanted to tell you that I really enjoy your blog. I also look up to you a lot. I love how you love God and I love your simplicity. Please don't change!
Wow, this is an absolute outpouring, a wave of love for you, Kristin! I am humbled just reading it. I hope you are feeling better today, and can go back to choosing pictures and writing with a happy heart. 🙂 Your family is lovely, and there's no such thing as "too happy", "too perfect", etc. The sting of this will fade in time, and I would think that over 200 accolades have the power to tell you how the vast majority of your readers feel!
Enough already! It is apparent from all the positive comments, FG, that you have more supporters than nay-sayers....So put your big-girl panties on and get on with it. I'd say your glass is more than half "full" -- it's running over! Where's your Friday food waste post? Please excuse my "tough love" approach - that's just me....and, in no way is it meant to be hurtful to you....I'm just tired of seeing all the "awwwws" and "please don't cry." Your feelings are hurt and you deserve a good cry. When you're feeling better, remember the holidays are fast approaching and your faithful readers are expecting some Frugal Girl holiday tips.....thanks for all you do...truly.
Um, I actually did do a Food Waste Friday post. If you click on the home page, you'll see it's been there since early this morning.
I think some times the excessive number of responses has less to do with people feeling that the writer "needs" a ton of responses (obviously this is a LOT) and more to do with each reader wanting to say their piece. I know that's how I felt. When I read this post I wanted to make my voice heard even though it was days late, because Kristen has provided me a lot of value by writing this blog which I've read for 2 years. Even though a ton of people had already said exactly what I wanted to say, I wanted to have my voice heard as well.
And hey, there's nothing wrong with a little love fest every now and then! 😀 I've read a lot about positive reinforcement (relevant to my job) and it really never hurts.
I'm definitely grateful for all the kind comments. You guys really encouraged me at a time where I felt kind of like giving up, and you helped me refocus.
If you are tired of reading these comments, then perhaps you should just not read them. Just because everyone wants to respond doesn't mean FG is still crying away, not functioning! Jeez.
I love your blog and have followed it for years now! Don't be discouraged, and keep up the good (cheerful!) work!
Wow, I hope someone on the internet didn't make you feel bad for being your usual, uplifting self. I think that you are just lovely and your cheefulness brings light to my day. While it's nice that you are real and you certainly don't present yourself as fake, I don't think you owe it to anyone to flaunt your weaknesses in order to make others feel better. There are PLENTY of other websites out there that do that!
I'll have you know that I specifically pursue blogs that are cheerful yet real (such as yours) because I belive in surrounding myself with things that set a good example. You are one of the good examples that I strive to be like.
God it can be hard when it feels like others are holding us to the standard of being perfect! I often struggle with my own self imposed perfectionism - it can be so frustrating. I hope that you enjoy your date night tonight and that you can get some extra hugs from Mr FG. I know that always makes me feel better when I'm down.
I totally just used the Lords name in vain on a Christian persons website. Fail. Feel free to edit that, it was unintentional!
Hi Kristen,
I comment rarely, but just had to add my two cents! I read your blog almost every day and like everyone else above, I appreciate and enjoy the tone and message of your blog (if I didn't, I wouldn't come back!) It's extremely strange to me that someone could possibly be depressed by too much happiness; I find that I become depressed when I hear about the bad things going on in the world but blogs such as yours help me to keep the important joys in life present in my mind and I am thus happier as a result. I see the challenges you face in your life and am encouraged by the grace with which you deal with these challenges and how you find contentment in the simplest things. I can't imagine I would be particularly inspired to dwell on the positives if you focused your blog on complaining and bitterness. Actually I would probably just stop reading! Anyway, thank you for what you've built here, I am so glad to have found you.
Dear Kristen,
I know this is a bit late, but for some reason this post didn't show up in my email like they normally do. I just wanted to say that you aren't perfect--but you are so inspiring! Your positive, loving attitude encourages me every time I read your posts. As a college student, it's hard to be frugal especially when everyone around me is so wasteful. But I continue to look up to you. You are a great role model as a mother, wife, and follower of Jesus; you make me aspire to be a better person. I am so grateful for your blog!
I just had to add to the chorus of voices that have already expressed their feelings so eloquently.
Your blog is the first one I read on my reader every time I open it. I admire so many qualities that you faithfully demonstrate. When I eventually have children, I want to share with them the kind of palpable love that I can see expressed in your family. I want to grow in my faith the way you consciously strive to grow in yours. I have learned so many yummy recipes and photography tips from your blog that I have given up trying to bookmark them all and I just search your blog when I need them, because searching your site ends up being just as efficient and looking through all of those bookmarks! We "silent readers" don't often express our thanks to our favorite bloggers, but here is mine: Thank you for being you!
The cheerful attitude you have (and, as others have mentioned, it IS your motto!) is a GREAT part of this blog. Having to PROVE that you have faults seems ridiculous to me! You're human! From what I've seen, you write about your shortcomings with a glass-half full attitude, which more people could take to heart, I think!
Please continue being YOURSELF! No one should ask for any more or less!
Of course I'm jealous, I'd like to be more like you. But I try to be happy the way I am. I enjoy what you have to say, sometimes I roll my eye's but I do that with my sisters and friends. Be proud of what you do and let the petty comments slide. Your doing a great job and you should be proud of yourself.
Aw, I am sorry you were feeling upset. For whatever it's worth, I read your blog regularly and have never thought you were being show-offy or attempting to depict a perfect life. I believe some people who have more difficulty seeing the positive side of things in life may be jealous of your ability to find and enjoy those happy moments so often. (I know this because I can be one of those naturally the-glass-is-half-empty people [though not in reaction to your blog posts], and I have to be mindful and push myself to be less so! It's how my brain is wired. It's something I struggle with, and I imagine many others do, too.)
I completely understand taking the negative comments to heart but I'm guessing most of the comments you receive are positive because YOU are such a POSITIVE and sweet person! So glad I was able to meet you in person and see your kind, sweet spirit! Keep your head up! 🙂
Aww, you're very sweet, Briana. 🙂 I was delighted to meet you too, and hanging out with you made the airport wait much more enjoyable.
A little late for this conversation, but thought you should know anyway-
I read your blog because you write about real motherhood, and real life, in a positive way. You share your creative endeavors, like sewing, baking and photography, without coming off as showy or a perfectionist (although you are very good at what you do). Your blog inspires me, makes me smile. I like smart, simple uncluttered, functional decor, clothing and food. I like that I can find those things on your blog. Do not change a thing. Boo to anyone who is critical. They can go read another blog! To each their own, leave yours alone 🙂
Kristen, I just recently found your blog and, from the comments, it seems somebody was crabby with you for being cheerful? Ridiculous. The world needs more cheer. Keep being cheery!
Oh frugal girl, your blog is my favorite and you are the best!!
I was out of town when you posted this. I have insomnia tonight, so I'm catching up on the posts that I missed. I just wanted to chime in here and let you know again how much I love your blog. It truly lifts my spirits and reminds me to stop and appreciate the simple things. I look forward to your posts every day!
I completely understand how some of the recent comments would hurt your feelings, because they would have hurt mine also. It's hard to tell you not to worry about it, when I know I would be worrying to death! Lol! However, you can't control how other people react to what you have to say. The only thing you can control is your intentions. I think we all know for sure you have really good intentions with everything you post.
Keep on keeping on!!
Wow you had me in tears 🙂 Love the way you ended that You're fearfully and wonderfully made sister ! you've been an inspiration to many including me!
I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well Psalm 139:14
I just recived this in an email today! I'm thinking you might like it too! God Bless you and your family...
May God make your year a happy one!
Not by shielding you from all sorrows and pain,
But by strengthening you to bear it, as it comes;
Not by making your path easy,
But by making you sturdy to travel any path;
Not by taking hardships from you,
But by taking fear from your heart;
Not by granting you unbroken sunshine,
But by keeping your face bright, even in the shadows;
Not by making your life always pleasant,
But by showing you when people and their causes need you most,
and by making you anxious to be there to help.
God's love, peace, hope and joy to you for the year ahead!.
Well all I can say is .......Ridiculous. People are crazy sometimes and gossips and meddlers in others affairs. You do not owe anyone an apology. Keep on being you. Christy