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Most of your life will not be extraordinary

I came across this quote on Instagram recently and I saved it because I wanted to share it with you all.

brianna weist quote.

In case someone is using a screen reader and that doesn’t translate, the quote says,

“Most of your life will not be extraordinary. Most of your life will be simple things, done regularly. If you are only going to be happy:

  • when you’re on vacation
  • after a lush payday
  • after a big career win

…you’re going to spend most of your life really dissatisfied.

You either learn to love the day as it is, or you don’t learn to love life at all.”

I don’t think this quote was written with a frugal audience in mind, but I think it is super relevant to the contented living we talk about so often here.

hot tea in a white mug.

It reminded me a little bit of that post I wrote about really, truly enjoying things.

Since most of your life will be simple things, done regularly, then learning to savor and appreciate the simple things is likely to increase your happiness!

pot of steaming milk.

And while “learn to love the day as it is” sounds a bit like a serious exercise in self-discipline, I think of it as something more like…a practice in delight.

I don’t think we need to learn to find delight in scrubbing toilets or sitting in traffic; that would be rather delusional.

Instead, I think the key is finding the bits of wonderful sprinkled in among the everyday, monotonous things in life.

Three “practicing delight” ideas

I am sure there are a multitude of ways to get good at practicing delight in the everyday, but here are three that work for me.

1) Take pictures

I really think that photography has upped my noticing skills!

lady bug on leaf.

Because I take pictures so often, I notice beautiful scenes, a colorful leaf, a beautiful water droplet, a lovely ray of light, a wispy bit of steam, and so on.

water droplets on a leaf.

2) Make a list

I do this mostly on Thankful Thursdays, but all throughout the week, my look-for-things-to-appreciate radar is working, collecting things to share with you all. 🙂

cat in a box.

This radar helps me notice ordinary things that I can enjoy all the time at little to no cost; a brilliant blue sky, a refreshing shower, a cozy bed, a hot cup of coffee, a delicious sandwich, a cozy hoodie.

3) Tell someone else

When my kids were younger, sometimes at dinner I would have them share the best and worst part of their day (a fun practice when you have a tableful of people!), and that’s a simple way to get into the habit of noticing at least one good thing in each day!

I also routinely tell Zoe about delightful things I notice*; I don’t know if this habit makes me notice things more, but sharing a joy with someone else does usually amplify the delight.

*Just yesterday I was like, “Oh my gosh, I’m so happy it’s sunny! That’s two mornings in a row that were forecast to be cloudy but they were sunny instead.”

Doing Thankful Thursday posts combines all three of these very nicely; I take pictures, I make a list, and I share it all with you guys. 😉

How do you find delight in the ordinary days?

P.S. Because I know someone will read this and think, “This is toxic positivity! Some days just suck.”…yes, it is true. Some days are pretty much terrible from start to finish. But in my personal experience, a lot of days do hold little delights, and I find it to be worth my while to hunt for those delights.

Life has both good and bad, hard and easy, misery and delight; there is room to acknowledge both. 🙂

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Tina Lopez

Tuesday 14th of May 2024

Having gratitude for those ordinary things. Gratitude for: the pictures to look at when you are having a bad moment or a sucky day, the list to read through when you think nothing is going right, a person to share the list and the pictures with. Those things might brighten THEIR spirits! So many people have big problems or challenges. Too many people are lonely or sad. If you share a smile or your list or pictures with them, you just might help them to start taking joy in the ordinary!


Monday 13th of May 2024

For me the one that hit was that small joys and big joys are the same. In the same sphere of ideas and very much tied to the frugal choices.

Stuck in traffic is a lot nicer with music or a podcast you like on, and a pump bottle of hand cream to use on dry hands.

Waterfalls in Iceland are amazing. So is tea with my mum.


Monday 13th of May 2024

My delights yesterday were visiting the grandkids. They are happy all the time. Morning coffee. Nice warm bed. My dogs. Dogs only live in the moment.

Susie Murphy

Monday 13th of May 2024

Listening to the birds in. the morning, helping my Mom get the day, watching my cat watch birds and squirrels.


Monday 13th of May 2024

Your comment at the end made me think of something. Once in a while I have a day where I feel just...grumpy. Or something. Like nothing pleases me. It doesn't happen very often, but I've learned there is something good on those days too...going to bed! I'm finally learning that when I have a day like that, after I go to sleep at night and wake up the next day, that negative overlay always seems to have gone away. Knowing that helps to keep it from affecting me as fully as it used to, as long as I can keep remembering the fact that it's a time-limited condition. Plus....bed!!! Cool sheets, warm blankets, darkness, nothing left to do or deal with. On a crappy day, that's as blissful as it gets.

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