Normally on Mondays, I answer a few questions that you all send in to me, but this week, my husband is answering some questions that you directed towards him. We collaborated on this project (I read the questions, he answered, and I typed his answers), but the answers to the questions are all his thoughts (I didn’t want you to think I made up the nice things he said about me!!). Thank you to those of you who sent questions in! We had a lot of fun putting this together, and I hope you enjoy reading his answers.
(I always like to have a face to put with a name, so for those of you who are new around here and haven’t ever seen Mr. FG, here’s a picture of us at the beach last September.)
What are the four things you love most about the Frugal Girl?
I had a hard time choosing my top four, so though these are not necessarily my four MOST favorite things about her, they are some of my favorite things.
1. Her persevering, steady nature.
2. The way she balances me out…her frugality balances out my spendy nature, her love for planning balances out my spontaneous nature, and her happy-go-lucky outlook on life balances out my more serious outlook.
3. That she is easy to get along with.
4. Her smile.
I have a question for Mr FG – I wonder if he ever feels pressure or just gets comments from co-workers or others regarding your families’ frugal choices? My husband receives comments frequently from male co-workers regarding the older (but paid for!) car he drives, the small amount of “spend” money he takes every paycheck (only $20 every two weeks), the fact that he doesn’t eat lunch out all the time like they do etc. I don’t think this bothers him too much but maybe a little in that he mentions their comments to me. Of course these same people or in terrible financial straits and constantly borrowing money too!
Not really. Some co-workers who eat out all the time want me to go with them, but they don’t really give me grief if I don’t go. Usually when I talk to co-workers about our financial decisions, their response is fairly positive. Most people seem to think that living beneath our means is wise, even if they don’t do that themselves. I think that might have to do with the state of the economy right now…because so many people are in bad financial shape, they respect people who manage their money well.
As the main income earner in your family, do you ever resent the way you have had to compromise in order to remain frugal for your family? In other words, do you ever wish you could just blow the wad on a 42 inch flatscreen and to heck with the emergency fund? Just wondering. Thanks.
Sure, I think everybody feels that way from time to time. I tend to be more of a spender than Kristen, and sometimes spending money on fun stuff seems more gratifying than saving money. But I do tend to be somewhat conservative in my views towards money and try to think beore I buy something, i.e. “Do I have the money for this?” “Do I need this?”, and I do try to keep an eye to the future.
I think having a balance between spending and saving is important and like with everything else in life, it’s a matter of keeping things balanced, which is a challenge.
What do you guys do for fun together?
When we go on date nights, we like to go out to dinner, and afterwards, we usually end up going shopping (it seems like we always have birthday shopping to do!). We love to go for overnighters without the kids, but that doesn’t happen too often.
We also like to play music together (I play guitar and Kristen plays the piano), read books together (I sometimes read aloud to her while she irons), go for walks, watch an occasional movie, and go for walks. We used to bikeride together before we had kids, but we haven’t been able to do that for a long time. One of my favorite things to do is to just talk with Kristen, and one of the reasons I enjoy vacations, date nights, and overnighters is that we have more of a chance to talk to each other.
One thing we NEVER do for fun is play Connect Four. Kristen always, always beats me at that game and it frustrates me no end.
(note from Kristen: I think playing Connect Four with Mr. FG is loads of fun. If only he would get on the same page with me. )
I’m a stay-at-home mom and it seems like my job is never ending, thankfully my husband chips in a lot around the house….do you help your wife out around the house?
Yes, though I don’t do it perfectly and I probably don’t do it enough. I help her with the dishes, I help the kids with their pjs and toothbrushing sometimes, I tuck the kids in bed (Sonia wants me to tuck her in every night!), I do random chores that need doing especially when I see that Kristen is stressed out or overwhelmed, and I take care of the usual guy stuff around the house like mowing the lawn, changing the oil, etc. I also help out with other random stuff when Kristen asks.
(note from Kristen: I’m really lame at asking for help, and I’m not even very good at accepting offers of help, so often when I am overwhelmed it’s kind of my own fault. Mr. FG is usually good about helping out when I actually let him know what I need help with and he does sometimes just take the initiative and does whatever needs doing. I do handle more household-related tasks than Mr. FG, which is fine with me because he spends a lot more hours earning money than I do and is not home as much as I am.)
Next week we’ll be back to the normal Q&A format with me answering your questions, but if any of you have more questions for my husband, feel free to send them in, and we’ll do another Q&A post with him when I accumulate enough questions.