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Monday Q&A | Cleaning Up, Food Processors, and Activities for Kids

Every Monday, I answer a few of the questions that my readers send me. If you have a question you’d like me to answer in a future Q&A post, just leave me a comment here or email me (thefrugalgirl [at] gmail [dot] com) and put Q&A in the subject line. I look forward to hearing from you!

First, I wanted to post about the Black Friday survey results. 483 of you weighed in, but sadly, Survey Monkey will only let me see the first 100 unless I pay them $19.95/month or $200/year. I wish I’d paid attention to that before I put the survey up.

Must find a better free poll/survey widget next time.

Anyway, based on the first 100 responses, 78% of you don’t love Black Friday, 7% of you do, and 16% checked the “other” box.

On to questions!

Cleaning Up

This isn’t a question about frugality but your overall philosophy seems in line with addressing this issue.

I feel like I spend every waking hour at home doing laps to pick up after people! You have written before about how your children pick up after themselves (somewhat). At what point does that actually save you time instead of taking time? I can get my 3 and 4 year olds to pick up, but generally it takes my close supervision (“that was great to pick up that lego! ok, now pick up the other 800 legos on the floor. . . “) during which time my 1 year old has assuredly made another mess. Then when I turn to clean up the new mess, the 3 and 4 year old continue on their path of destruction. You see where I am going? If I dare spend a moment to do dishes, make dinner, fold laundry etc., the chaos multiples exponentially.

Admittedly, I do work outside of the home fulltime– but everyone else is out of the home at that time too.

What can I do to not feel like I am fighting a losing battle, all day , every day?

-Kristin

You know what’s funny? I always assumed that families who are out of the house all day must have an easier time keeping their homes clean, just because I see the disaster that my kids wreak on my house due to them being here almost every single day! This must not be the case, though. 😉

Anyways, my kids are home almost every day, making messes on a regular basis, so my home is definitely not immaculate, and I can sympathize with your frustrations.

I usually try to have my kids clean up their messes once a day, either before dinner or before family worship. Right now, they’re all old enough to participate in this, but if I had a 1 year old like you do, I’d put her under the supervision of my husband so that I could supervise cleaning (or vice-versa).

(Ideally, my kids would all clean up bit by bit as they finish playing with things, but I haven’t managed to stay entirely on top of that. An that means by the end of the day, there are usually messes sprinkled all around the house.)

If you’re having trouble getting dishes and laundry done, I’d just let your kids play and make messes, and then you can do one big cleanup before bedtime. Or maybe you (and your husband, hopefully!) could work on the dishes and laundry together after the kids go to bed.

When you’re first teaching children to clean up, it is way slower to have them help, and that makes it so, so tempting to do it for them! Hang in there, though…if you persevere, their cleaning up skills will eventually improve. My older two are fairly good at cleaning up these days, and Sonia and Zoe (6 and 4) can hold their own too. Sonia and Zoe can’t be trusted to organize and declutter, but they can definitely manage tasks like cleaning up Legos, picking up puzzles, putting crayons away, and the like.

If your kids are cleaning too slowly (one Lego at a time!), try using a timer. Sometimes, especially with the younger ones, I’ll say, “Let’s see if we can get this all cleaned up before the timer beeps!”, and other times (especially if I’ve given my kids pleeeeeenty of time to clean and they’re still playing instead of cleaning), I’ll say, “You have 15 minutes to get this cleaned up!”, and they assume there will be some consequence if they don’t, even though I don’t say so. This always provides them with sufficient motivation to get going…in fact, it’s so effective, I’ve never even had to come up with a consequence! 😉

Food Processors

My question for you is: What kind of food processor do you have? Are you happy with the size of it? How often do you use it? Did you find it second hand?

-Debbie

I have a Cuisinart Classic 7-Cup Food Processor (though mine obviously isn’t quite as hip as the one in the link!). I received it as a wedding gift 13 years ago, and it’s still going strong.

It’s not a tool I use daily (I use my KitchenAid mixer waaay more often), but I would miss not having it. It’s great for slicing potatoes for Scalloped Potatoes, for pureeing almost anything, for shredding large quantities of cheese (for small amounts I just use my hand grater from Goodwill), for shredding zucchini, and even for making some types of dough, like Thin Crust Pizza dough.

I do sometimes see food processors at my Goodwill, so the second-hand market would be worth checking out.

Children’s Activities

I was wondering how you feel about signing up your kids for extra activities such as girl scouts, swim lessons, or other such activities, a lot of these can be costly but we all want our children to be well rounded.

I personally work outside the home and have just signed my five year old up for girl scouts but I am wondering if I made a mistake because after working all day and her going to school all day, we are both tired. And adding an activity means alot more driving to get places and just less family time.

(I am already struggling to get her to do the basics with out complaining too much like getting dressed for school or picking up toys.)

Do you think it is good to sign kids up for these activities? It can be costly also. I just wanted your opinion.

-Dawn

I think the answer here will vary from family to family because each family has different variables. I will say, though, that I’m not sold on the idea that being involved in lots of formal activities is required for a well-rounded child. My parents pretty severely limited the number of activities my siblings and I were involved in, and I don’t think that was at all detrimental to me….quite the opposite, in fact! I’m grateful for the slower-paced childhood I had and for the large amount of family time we had.

It always makes me a little sad when I see families who feel like they have to have their children in a multitude of activities so that their children won’t be scarred…I really think that fear is unnecessary.

Here are a couple of things to consider when a new activity presents itself.

1. Finances
Obviously, if adding an activity puts a strain on the family budget or requires you to go into debt, I would not recommend it. Activities are fun, but I have yet to see an activity that is worth going into debt over.

2. Time
I’ve read article after article about how modern children are far too over-scheduled, so I think this is an important factor to consider when you’re looking at adding an activity.

If the activity will still leave time for chores and homework and family time, that’s one thing, but if these things are precluded by the activity, I’d lean towards saying no to it. So few families get to eat dinner together or enjoy evenings at home together, and I don’t think most activities are worth giving that up.

It’s all about balance, though…I think it’s entirely possible to work an activity or two into family life without being out and about every waking moment.

3. Age and Personality

Some children are able to handle outside activities while others are easily exhausted and stressed. When I was 5 years old and my mom put me in kindergarten at a local Christian school, I was a crabby, tired mess. Clearly, an extra activity would have been very bad for me (and in fact, my crankiness was one of the reasons my mom decided to try homeschooling!).

Obviously, not all children are like that, though, so I’d just keep an eye on your daughter. If she seems to be worn out from Girl Scouts, you can always pull her out and try it again the next year.

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Readers, the floor is yours! And don’t forget to weigh in on yesterday’s Christmas post if you’ve got a Christmas-related question for me.

Today’s 365 post: When you forget to change your white balance…

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Jennifer

Tuesday 30th of November 2010

I was also involved in activities in school, although my parents were more moderate. I was allowed to do 1 "expensive" thing at a time. I did Girl Scouts for a couple of years and then I did ballet for a couple of years. My parents could have afforded for me to do many things, but they were teaching me moderation and to focus on excelling in 1 or 2 things. In the end, I realized that singing was my passion so I spent most of my time doing that. My parents paid for me to travel to competitions every year and supported me 100%. I dabbled in a couple of sports and was active in a couple of clubs that didn't take too much time, but I always stuck with singing. I'm glad my parents let me try different things, but they taught me it was much more important to work hard and excel at 1 thing than only be mediocre at many things.

On the other hand, my brother never became involve in many activities in school. He was very shy and I think he would have really benefited from the social interactions. They encouraged him many times, but he always said no and they never pushed.

My cousin is the exact opposite! She is involved in multiple sports, girl scouts, and even takes cooking classes. She is ALWAYS on the run and spends most of her time focused on socializing rather than her academics. I think the cooking lessons are a little excessive, but she loves being on the go!

jan

Monday 29th of November 2010

I was that mom that didn't encourage all that extra after school stuff activities. Princess did the brownie/girl scout stuff for a few years. But then she moved into the JrROTC stuff which put her in the Raiders program. Sonny boy was quiet and sort of shy, who would have known he was a music genius until he joined orchestra (to offset the PE requirement) in 6th grade. So he's the musician but doesn't do ANY after school stuff, just plays with his band (and yes, they do performances and get paid here and there) ... just recently he looked into joining the jazz band and the drum line BUT he's a senior so it's pretty much done. My thoughts always were eduction is first and foremost. Family time is important. I was NOT going to spend 3 hours of my evenings elsewhere driving here and there waiting and picking up children who should be home, studying and having family time (we used to eat dinner at the same time every night, the 4 of us) ... sometimes I wish I had done it differently, but then I look at other families that are doing it now and see that there is NO family time as a whole. Dad is over here and Mom is over here, they all get home at 9pm and do the McD drive through for "dinner".

Eri

Tuesday 30th of November 2010

That's my family;). Minus the mcd's we prefer Tim Horton's here in Canada.

jewels k

Monday 29th of November 2010

i don't know how everyones library is but we have classes and things for all ages that we sign up for. my kids are homeschooled & it's great to sign them up for art classes or globe trotters ( geography) and it's free! the best thing about it is the classes are only once a week for 4 weeks & if we want to take a break, we can. before signing up for another 4 weeks. so it's wonderful & great for the budget. we are also part of a homeschool co-op that my kids take classes from once a week. there are lots of things we can choose from for the semester. it's great socially & it's great b/c it takes some learning activities off of my plate.

Mrs. M

Monday 29th of November 2010

On the survey question - try Google Forms. You can have as many entries as you need and it's a free product. I use it for all of my surveys and it will create graphs for you like Survey Monkey.

Rebecca

Monday 29th of November 2010

Oooh and as far as dance goes, I did ballet for 11 years. It was very, very, very, very expensive. Once you got to be in the senior company, 5 (2 hour) ballet classes a week were required, along with enrichment classes. My tuition was nearly $2,000 a semester, plus summer camp. Pointe shoes run from about $65-90 a pair, depending on the brand. You can't just choose a less expensive brand, it depends on your feet and how you dance.

By the time I was 15, I was dancing 30 hours a week. The thing is, I loved it. Of course there were days where I was tired and cranky, but you'll get that from anything. Ballet was so much fun and so rewarding, I wouldn't change those 11 years for anything.

Also, I was very lucky because my family of origin is pretty well off, so we could afford it. But just like with Girl Scouts, there were scholarships and supplemental funds.

My parents had a rule about activities: you can do whatever you want, as long as you do your best and don't complain about going. I did ballet for 11 years and Girl Scouts since I was 4/5, and band/orchestra for 7 years. My sister did acting, fencing and choir.

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